First Mothers Day card

[Mummytobe333]

Hi all,
I hope this doesn’t sound ungrateful that’s why I’m posting to get confirmation if im
just being sensitive.

this is my first Mothers Day which I’m so excited about and I received my card today. My husband picked a joke card, no sentiment, no nice words was just a joke card which I was a bit gutted about.
I was just expecting something a bit more serious/sentimental for my first Mothers Day and I can’t help but feel a bit gutted,
I have had to remind him it’s Mothers Day coming up and organise my own meal out.

Should I bite my tongue and just accept it’s a man’s effort/am I over reacting ? Or would you be upset too?

I think you're being a little over sensitive about the card. It's your first Mother's Day. There will be years to come when your child will present you with a card made from scrap paper/cotton wool/bits of painted pasta/etc and you'll treasure it. This year, you have a baby, who is hopefully healthy and happy and thriving - that's your celebration for the day.

Agree, it’s a thing that in years to come when you have the handmade cards & self written you’ll treasure those. It’s still hard though as it is your first Mother’s Day.
Tbh I’ve planned both DH and my mums meals because I wanted to make sure we got tables at the places I wanted to go to.

You need to tell your DH your expectations, very clearly.

If you got your card today 5 days early he still has time to go and get a better one too.

Some people are just crap at that sort of thing - they don't pick up on your tastes at all. I had to spell out to my husband that I prefer plain cards with a simple handwritten message to cards with sentimental verses in them, for example. Don't make a huge thing of it, just tell him it's not your sort of card.

Why did you get the card today, when it isn't even Mother's Day yet, if you're so excited about celebrating it?

We don't know his character. To be fair he may be lovely but maybe cards and mothers day isn't his thing. It sounds full on though that you have organised your own meal out.

I think maybe I'm a bit old fashioned but it seems weird to me that your husband would get you a mother's day card at all; you're not his mother! Our kids are tiny and so mother's/father's day isn't a thing yet - we don't acknowledge it at all except to remind each other to ring our own mothers!

That said, since he did get you a card he could have gotten you a nice one! I usually get my mum joke mother's day cards, albeit mother's day themed ones.

why have you got the card when it isn't mother's day yet?

He sent it from Moonpig and arrived today early and I opened it not knowing what it was.

It all seems totally pointless to me to have to tell your DH it is Mother's Day and for you to have to organise a meal.
How can you take any pleasure from that ?
If he didn't think to do it himself, then it means nothing really