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MIL issues

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Ljg998 · 13/03/2023 18:52

Hi all.
Need some advice with mother in law problems.
I just want to start of by saying I am really grateful for my MIL most of the time when we need her we can always relay that she will help us out. We have a 2 year old and a one year old. Since my LO has turned 2 almost a year ago I have constantly been getting asked when am I potty training? My little boy was not ready at the time or showing any signs and I held of as long as he needed ( we are now currently in the process of potty training) but when my LO would go to stay at his granny's or when me and his dad worked she would try and make him use the potty when at the time he wasn't ready I only found this out recently and it really angered as I felt she was deciding I wasn't doing a good enough job and she took it into her own hands. She also is constantly spoiling my 2 year old, when we say for example he isn't allowed any sweets today, or he is not to have a dummy throughout the day we always later find out when she is with him that she always overrules our decisions. There have also been other things that have just annoyed me. Sometimes I also think our two year old is favoured more than our one year old, I hate to even say or think this, but our two year old is the one they always ask for and the one they want to keep for over night stays never the my other one.

I don't know if I'm being a picky overbearing mum but has anyone ever been through this or any advice.....

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kirsty2023 · 13/03/2023 20:28

Ljg998 · 13/03/2023 18:52

Hi all.
Need some advice with mother in law problems.
I just want to start of by saying I am really grateful for my MIL most of the time when we need her we can always relay that she will help us out. We have a 2 year old and a one year old. Since my LO has turned 2 almost a year ago I have constantly been getting asked when am I potty training? My little boy was not ready at the time or showing any signs and I held of as long as he needed ( we are now currently in the process of potty training) but when my LO would go to stay at his granny's or when me and his dad worked she would try and make him use the potty when at the time he wasn't ready I only found this out recently and it really angered as I felt she was deciding I wasn't doing a good enough job and she took it into her own hands. She also is constantly spoiling my 2 year old, when we say for example he isn't allowed any sweets today, or he is not to have a dummy throughout the day we always later find out when she is with him that she always overrules our decisions. There have also been other things that have just annoyed me. Sometimes I also think our two year old is favoured more than our one year old, I hate to even say or think this, but our two year old is the one they always ask for and the one they want to keep for over night stays never the my other one.

I don't know if I'm being a picky overbearing mum but has anyone ever been through this or any advice.....

Hi sorry to hear ur MIL is not going by what you say it's makes u mad u are not doing anything wrong it's ur child and so she should be going by ur rules I can under stand the bit with her picking the 2 year old more over the one year old it's not nice my mum is the same with my sisters kids sees them all the time but don't see my kids more than 4 times a year gets you down some times... I had that problem with other half's family wen my older child was little they started calling her names and leaving her out and not talking to her wen she was there so stopped them seeing her at 12 months old she's now just over 3 and I've not long ago had another baby and they haven't seen him at all

Alitlebitsleepy · 13/03/2023 20:33

Your MIL is really overstepping the mark here. This really does need addressing as she clearly doesn’t respect your parenting decisions and I think this will just continue if unchecked. What does your partner say? Can he have a conversation with his mum about it?

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