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3 year old never wants to see there dad

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Mummy95 · 11/03/2023 22:07

Hoping someone can give me some supportive words and advice if they’ve gone through something similar (I’m sure I’m not the only one). Basically my three year old has to see her dad every Sunday, it was supervised (due to domestic violence) but now has changed to unsupervised for 3 hours. For the past 2/3 months she has not wanted to go, she keeps crying.. I mean really crying screaming she seems really distressed every time she has to go and see her dad. I always give her a hug and reassure her and try and make it positive for her as I know it’s important for her to have a bond with her father. But my god it just breaks my heart and it’s so hard having to force her to go. She has nightmares and wakes up crying in the night telling me she doesn’t want to go, so it’s sad seeing it disturb her sleep it’s obviously really bothering her. She’s so young and doesn’t understand why she has to go even though I try to explain to her. I struggle with this emotionally every single week and I’m wondering what people do to cope because I really don’t want it to be like this for the rest of our lives! Someone give me some hope please! I’ve spoke to cafcass about it numerous times and they say it’s normal and it’s like a child attending the dentist/doctors and getting upset but that it’s in there best interest.. however I find it traumatising for a 3 year old having to go through it every single week she seems so distressed.

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sparkle1011 · 11/03/2023 22:13

@Mummy95 I feel it's strange that someone hasn't been negative towards her dad to her
Not normal for a 3 year old to be this upset surely ? Surely if you have reassured her then this is enough...I feel that's much more to this

GlitteryGreen · 11/03/2023 22:16

My SD was like this when she knew the time was coming for her to be away from her mum - however that was for the weekend and not just 3 hours.

Does she give reasons why she doesn't want to go? Her reaction seems extreme for just 3 hours.

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