Feeling like the crap parent

[anniz91]

I'm currently finding my feet with my first born who is 6 weeks old.

It's been really tough, I feel like I'm not good enough. He has been a tough baby, very sensitive, colicky, crying non stop.

When my mother comes and my mother in law they have a way with baby and settle him down straight away, that makes me feel like absolute shit. Why can I not settle him straight away? I feel like maybe he doesn't like me....

Even my husband who doesn't spend nearly as much time as I do and only comes once a day to actually spend time with baby for an hour settles him down more than me.

I just feel so inadequate....

You are not a crap parent!!!

it is so so hard adjusting to having a baby. It rocks your entire world. You’re only 6 weeks in and I promise things do get better and you will start to find your feet. It is particularly hard when you’ve got a baby that cries a lot. Are you breastfeeding? I only ask because sometimes babies cry more with mum when they can smell the milk. Also you’ve got baby the majority of the time so of course you’ll experience more of the tough times.

You're doing great xx

Try not to worry. I honestly believe babies can "sense" confidence from people and that he may be picking up on your anxiety.

My DD used to be great with my parents too, but they were old hands at holding/settling babies.

I muddled through and eventually came into my own with it all. You will too.

I could also be because you smell of milk and he knows you feed him!
Your his Mum, you are always going to be the one he looks to first.
He really does love you.
It’s also super normal to feel like this. I remember this. I had a very unsettled First born DC. It does get better. Be kind to yourself.

I remember reading then one of mine was tiny, that babies always seem much more unsettled or grouchy with their mum as she's the one they know and trust the most. They don't need to perform for her, they instinctively know her love and that she will be there no matter what. Chin up, you'll get through it.

I had this. It doesn't mean you are crap, maybe just more tired, less confident and tense etc and babies can sense that. It's great other people are there for help and support, let them crack in and you take a rest and relax.