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Forcing children to see their father

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Darthwazette · 10/03/2023 19:57

My son is 8. I’ve been divorced from his father for 3 years and he(with his siblings) usually spends every other weekend with his dad Friday bedtime - Monday before school.

For the last few weeks my son hasn’t wanted to go. The only reason he gives is that his dad is mean and he misses me.

I’ve forewarned his dad that he may need some encouragement and managed to coax him out of the house for the last few weekends.

Two weeks ago (the last time they were together) my son said something rude to his dad and was shouted at and then given the silent treatment for the rest of the day.

Today he’s insisted again he didn’t want to go. When the door went he ran upstairs saying he was scared. I called him down to talk to his dad and he started crying. His Dad told him to stop being a dick and then stood around cursing under his breath as I tried to encourage my son to go.

I don’t know how much longer I can do this for. Is it wrong to let him stay home with me? I know if I was in his dads shoes I would be devastated but I’m finding it really hard essentially forcing him to go when he doesn’t want to.

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Marchforward · 10/03/2023 20:49

I’m not surprised he doesn’t want to go if he’s been called a dick and being the silent treatment, this is emotional abuse.

Bunnyishotandcross · 10/03/2023 20:57

He is abusive. Listen to your ds and let him stay with you.
Or he will never trust you or have faith in your words.
Keep a diary of every incident ds can recall. And any messages ex sends regarding ds.. Build a case against him incase a solicitor ever needs it.

ladykale · 10/03/2023 22:20

He calls your child a dick and you're really asking this Q?!

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Strongmumforever · 09/10/2024 09:21

Hello, I’m in a similar situation. My son is 8 years old and struggling with his father. He does not want to see him and my solicitor already mentioned to him about his feelings. The child arrangement hearing is happening soon.

the school is forcing my child to go with his Dad. He clearly does not want to. He is having anxiety pain, not eating properly. The other day he told his dad in front of his headteacher that it is his choice and he does not want to go.

the headteacher has now reported me to SS because she thinks now I’m the concern.

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