Potty training 3yo w communication delay

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Hi. My DS1 has just turned 3, and we're very aware that we really need to crack on with potty training him. We've avoided it up to now because he has a communication/speech delay and just didn't have the skills to tell us when he needed to go. We think he's getting there in this respect though.

I'm particularly interested to know if anyone has had success going straight to a training seat on the toilet rather than potty. We've had a potty lying around for a while and he hates sitting on it, especially without trousers or nappy on. Yet the first thing he did with it when we got it was go and try to put it on the big toilet seat.

Any tips for potty training an older or speech delayed little boy would be much appreciated!

Thanks.

So mine doesn't have a speech delay but has other things which made it hard/delayed

At just over 3 we tried potty which he strongly disliked then went for weeing standing up at the toilet, or 'practicing' which he was okay with, and in time using the step up seat attachment for the toilet. He took a lot better to these than the potty. For a good amount of time we had wee accidents but cleaned up together and just said a lot 'that was a wee, we will clean it but as you get big they go in the toilet'

Poops were an issue until around 3.5, we did empty pants into the toilet with him then flush them and wash the pants just saying 'poop goes in the toilet' and one day he started to hold his bum so we took him there and he did it. Some of it was a case of trying to look for cues to get there when we could see signs, and also trying to follow up with 'what had happened' by showing him and cleaning up together so he may recognise the feelings and what they mean

Still occasional accidents at 3 year 7 months but for the most part he is there.

If you can get some pretty heavy duty pants rather than the cheaper ones they help keep poop in and not on outer clothing whilst going through the transition. We didn't actually use pants until we had a couple of successes, but there was a lot lot lot of accidents. The ones we got also wash up really well and we just keep re using them have only had to throw out about 5 in the 7 months of this process (and it has been messy!)

Singing Nursery rhymes as a distraction when you can get him to sit on the potty or just before? Wheels on the bus or itsy bitsy spider, and with actions, my little one isn't taking yet, baby babbling at the moment but he loves doing actions to rhymes at the moment and this gets him to sit on pity relatively calmly for a minute.