9 month old hyper baby

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Hi all,
Writing this thread as I'm having a tough time with my boy who will be 9 months in a week. From the moment he wakes up in the morning until his bedtime at 7, he is NON stop. It would make it easier if he enjoyed being in his buggy as I could go out more but he hates being in his buggy, he hates being in his car seat, he screams and shouts trying to get out. I can't carry him on a sling as I have spinal damage following an epidural - my husband does when we go out and he's not so bad on there. He hates being in his high chair, even though he eats well thank god as he's never enjoyed milk! He eats well and sleeps well for the most part. He gets bored of toys, he wants to be held to walk but of course I can't do this with him all day. It's just non stop I'm not sure what else to say. Oh another thing is changing him - IMPOSSIBLE! He does not sit still for nappy change or to put clothes on him. He has to be distracted with 100 items. Any advice would be greatly appreciated as I am one desperate and tired mama. It's getting me really down. The moment my husband gets in from work is the best part of my day as I can tune out for an hour. Everyone has noticed how hyper he is. Family have commented on it (not in a bad way) but just saying they understand what I'm saying as they can see it. Please help!

my little one hates getting into the car seat/pram etc but once we’re on the move is much happier - is it the whole time they scream? Mines the same age as yours and that sounds very tough!
I would wonder if there is something that makes the sitting position uncomfortable for him as that seems to be common denominator here especially if happy in a carrier. Maybe worth seeing gp/baby osteo or something? Not sure what else to suggest, sorry!

Mine was like this - i thought he had ADHD! he's still full on at 20 months however he has calmed down A LOT.

i can't really believe it but it did happen. I found 6 months to 12 months the worst for the hyperness and didn't really enjoy it. Now, I think the reason is he's just very bright and needs a lot of stimulation. Weirdly he also wasn't into milk. He's only just got into it in a big way recently. Also hated buggy and carseat - now very happy in both!

All I can say is, mine did calm down. And he doesn't have ADHD. Maybe your one will chill out too but I'd take it as a sign he's smart. In the meantime, get some childcare if you can because it can be really so draining. I went back to work for a break at 12 months very happily.

I would just spend most of my day outside letting him be as active as possible and taking him to all sort of places and letting him roam. He got into TV at around 15 months and I use that every day for a bit to catch a break.

@toastandtea42 thank you so much for your reply. Your post has honestly given me a glimmer of hope that things will improve.... he will be starting nursery in June once he turns 1 and I return to work. I genuinely feel that going back to work will be good for my mental state and I hope nursery will be good for him. Thank you xxx

This won't solve all your problems but it's one thing that I did that helped with my DS at this stage. I emptied out a cupboard at floor level and filled it with safe, interesting stuff he could explore - toys, random kitchen objects like tupperware with things inside, shakers, wooden train tracks, balled up socks, everything. He was allowed to open it and get everything out and it would keep him busy for a bit.

Also if you have an outdoor space when it's warmer (or just use the bath/shower tray) give him a small bucket of warmish water with plastic bowls and spoons to explore pouring, floating etc. Obviously well supervised at this age but can give you a bit of peace.

I remember when my DS could just walk we took him to a big, flat beach. he just ran and ran for hours like a clockwork toy, he was so happy to be able to move freely, and then it was easier for him to burn energy off.

Same here. DD always been very very hyper and I secretly think she has ADHD, but maybe time will prove me wrong. But she has calmed down a lot, so there is hope! Currently still hyper at 3yo but it's more bearable now. She's also been at nursery from 12 months and some people judged me for sending her so young, but it honestly saved my sanity. I also agree it's to do with intelligence. The nursery have always moved DD to older rooms earlier than other kids because she "was smart" and needed to be more stimulated. Good luck! You've got it. And you only have a few months to go :-D