Mum social skills, help!

[Madgeline]

Have namechanged for this to save my dignity. Daughter is now in year 5 and lots of friendship dramas in the class.
Im not sure if I’m autistic or just introverted but I don’t always know how to respond when parents (especially the ones I usually talk to in the playground) bring this up with me.
Obviously the ideal is that school sorts things. Which it’s great with, but when things are mentioned between parents can you give me any good responses for when other parents insist their child has not done anything wrong or admits they have but didn’t mean any harm.

I appreciate that’s vague, but there is no bully or anything my daughter is just having it aimed at her more as she has autism and is an easy target, it’s just a group of girls that are all catty with each other at the moment. My instinct is to obviously let the teacher deal with it and leave the girls to it, but when other children are pulled up by teacher for being mean to my daughter the mum is coming to me, but not actually to apologise, just to ascertain that her daughter did no wrong, Mums are all a wider friendship group too so I don’t want to spoil that but I’m sick of the pattern.

I would say something like ‘If you have an issue with what the teacher said then you really need to raise it with her.” Or “I think this is something best for the school to deal with.” Smile and then either change the conversation eg weather or ask about school holiday plans or even just walk off.

It’s very vague OP- but firstly it’s really not up to the school to sort out, you’re her mum, your job to try and help her build some social skills and resilience.
I’d explain to her that she needs to keep away from the girls that are causing issue. If a parent approaches you as it to cover their tracks I’d be inclined to say “it’s all very unnecessarily catty in the girls group, told my child just to walk away”

I meant up to the school to sort in terms of disciplining the children.
I chat to my child and we work lots on resilience. I try and help her to decide when she needs to tell a teacher and when she can just walk away.
I just don’t really know how to handle the parents who have precious angels that would never be the ones in the wrong.