Potty training - 9 months and counting

[SurreyisSunny]

I started potty training my DS 9 months ago over the Queens jubilee weekend. He still hasn’t mastered it and I’ve no idea what to do.

He goes to nursery 4 days a week where he’s pretty good with only 2 or 3 accidents a week. At home or out and about it’s another matter. He definitely can do it but I think he’s just lazy.

I’ve tried reward charts, reward counters, crisps, expensive bribes, all kinds of potties, different pants and so on.

This evening I managed to rip a pair of £20 Fred & Noah leggings he’d done a wee in and they were so wet it was impossible to pull off him.

I wish I’d started later as he wasn’t ready last June but now I know he can do it. He’s 3.5.

if he’s still having accidents then he obviously can’t do it all the time

i don’t think he’s being lazy.

I think this reiterates why it’s so important to wait until the child is ready

Maybe he isn't ready yet? I think boys are often later and I think it's mostly a physical thing and if he's having that many accidents 9 months later he just isn't ready. I only have one child but we potty trained him around 3 and it only took a couple of months before he wasn't having accidents.

Will he wee on demand? That's the first step.

Is having wee or poo accidents or both?