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Baby is 15 months old & just found out I'm pregnant again and I don't know how I feel about it :(

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WillowGema2021 · 03/03/2023 11:14

My baby is 15 months old and I had the best pregnancy and birth I could have wished for however I'm pregnant again and I really don't know how I feel about it, and that kills me to say that 😔 we are still living in a rented 2 bed property and have no space as it is, we are trying to buy a bigger property but our offers aren't getting accepted, it's just a nightmare!! My partner says it's not the right time but we'll make it work but I really don't know if that's what I want I'm so confused 😔

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WillowGema2021 · 03/03/2023 11:20

I know it's only me that can make that decision but just wanted to know what others would do in this situation

Thanks

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TinyTeacher · 03/03/2023 12:25

Take a deep breath. You dont need to rush or panic. Your partner sounds supportive.

Remember tiny babies don't take up much space or need much. So it's not like birth is a hard deadline for having a new house.

Try to think calmly about what you want.

katsue · 03/03/2023 13:03

That's so tricky, you are right that only you can decide what is best for you and your family but here are my thoughts...

There is never really a perfect time for babies, everyone I know that waited to have the perfect house and the perfect point in their career then found having a baby in the mix quite hard to cope with because it was such a change. When we had our eldest we were renting and it wasn't a great time financially but it worked and was all fine in the long run.

I haven't been in your exact position but did have an unexpected third baby. I was very conflicted as it was really not a good time career-wise and the others were quite a lot older but I couldn't imagine life without him now and everything else has worked out because it had to!

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katsue · 03/03/2023 13:08

I reread my post and thought it was a bit too one sided! I think whatever you decide is fine and you will work out what is best for your family. I think my point was more that it seems like a massive lifestyle change but as the PP put much more succinctly, babies don't need much stuff and you don't have to make snap decisions either way.

secretmumoffour · 04/03/2023 20:01

It's hard OP. I found out I was pregnant when my first DS was 12 weeks old.... second DS was born two weeks before DS1 first birthday. When I first found out I was pregnant, I cried for a week! Didn't know what to think. Give yourself a bit of time. Once I got my head around the idea I was fine. My second DS is six months now and don't get me wrong it's been hard but it's so worth it. The two of them are starting to interact together now. They are sharing a room too and tbh have been the easiest of mine to settle into their own rooms. I think the company is comforting for them both. It will probably be very overwhelming to think of it now, give it a couple of weeks and see how you feel.

Iwasntgettingasandwich · 04/03/2023 20:05

We planned dd2, found out I was pregnant when dd1 was 18 months. I still felt unsure about it, sad for dd1, upset, knew we'd have to move (small 2 bed,they couldn't have shared). Like pps have said, they are all normal emotions. Your partner sounds supportive and you don't need to make a decision now, you can take your time to work out how you feel.

Mammyloveswine · 04/03/2023 21:19

Op I was the same as you, had a 15 month old and was pregnant!

My boys are now 7 and 5 and whilst they do fight they are increasingly close and share a bedroom etc!

But only you can decide what is best for you!

Sending

incitethismeetingtorebellion · 04/03/2023 21:24

My eldest was 5 months when I found out I was pregnant again. Now have a 10 month old and one just about to turn 2. It's hard work but nowhere near as hard as I thought especially when youngest was a newborn which I thought would be horrific. Financially it's tight having 2 lots of nursery fees to pay. Only you can know if you can or want to do it so close together.

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WillowGema2021 · 10/03/2023 21:55

Thank you so much everyone for your comments, you don't know how much you've helped me ❤️

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WillowGema2021 · 16/03/2023 16:14

I lost the baby unfortunately 😔

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TinyTeacher · 16/03/2023 16:36

Im sorry OP.

Please please please don't feel bad about your conflicting emotions. Your feelings are understandable and valid and I imagine your mind must be really confused at the moment. Nothing you have done/thought is wrong.

GettingThereCharleyBear · 16/03/2023 16:37

@WillowGema2021 oh I’m so sorry to hear that 😢. Give yourself time to grieve - it’s a little life not a little loss ❤️.

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