Feel like I'm doing everything wrong advice needed

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As title says I just feel like I am doing everything wrong as a mum to my DS 6 months old. He isn't very interested in food so weaning off to a bad start, he still naps on me as if I put him in cot he only sleeps for 30 mins then will get into an overtired cycle which will carry on for the rest of the day and night, he doesn't seem to enjoy any of the baby classes I take him too he just constantly fusses and tries to wriggle around as he is a very active baby and is trying (and failing) to crawl etc, when I take him out to a coffee shop to see a friend or something he just cries, he's had an issue since day 1 with his feeding he's had to go to hospital specialist as he was not gaining enough weight which was down to CMPA. I've been struggling with PND and insomnia since he was born and trying my best to be the best mum I can but I am just exhausted with feeling like a failure. Not looking for advice necessarily to fix above issues just wondering if it's normal feeling this way. Please be kind and if you don't have something nice to say I'd rather you just not reply as feeling like poo as it is xx

It really doesn't sound like you're doing anything wrong and it's mostly the PND and exhaustion talking - maybe there are ways you can make things easier for yourself though? You say you are carrying him - is that literally in your arms or in a carrier? I know you say he's active but maybe if your found the right carrier that would help you manage?

Don't worry if he doesn't take too weaning, it's not always straightforward. Are you doing baby led with solids, or pureed food? We did kind of a mixture with ours which worked well. If you are doing just one, perhaps try the other and see how that goes.

I hope this improve soon, please don't be hard on yourself.

Don't be too hard on yourself. I definitely found the first 6 months the hardest and you've made it through them.

It does get better

Must of this sounds completely normal to be honest.
He’s still very new to weaning so don’t worry at all about that! My DD played with food from 6 months until at about 10 months it just clicked and she started eating.
Going to coffee etc will get easier as he becomes more comfortable with food. You’re in a weird middle stage at the moment where he’s too old to just chill but too young to be happily munching away whilst you chat.
Don’t stress about classes too much, as long as he’s not climbing all over other babies just let him do his thing. My DD likes to be front and centre at these things, not sat with me. I let her roam where she wants, she’s still getting a lot out of the class. It’s good for them to show signs of independence.

It sounds like you’re a fab mum to be honest!

Absolutely normal to feel like you are failing. It doesn't sound like you are- your child is safe and fed? Nothing wrong with contact napping. Don't let people's Instagram fool you etc, it can be a tough gig. Keep at it mama.

It sounds like he's eager to start moving, so things may also improve emotionally when he can move himself around (although that will bring new challenges in itself)

Thank you all for your kind words. May have shed a little tear reading them earlier xx