son got hit at school today

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got a call from a teacher in my sons school today. hes 10. most of his class and another class his year play football at breaks. so today my sons friend was in goals and another lad in the class wanted to be in goals got quite annoyed and stressed over it not being his turn. he asked my son to tell his friend to let him be in goals and my son suggested they let the guy in goals have another 5 mins then he cud have a go for the last 10 mins of break. the other child got quite annoyed by this suggestion and the teacher told me he then started punching my son in the face until he was pulled away by staff. the teacher has told me the boys parents have been informed and called in for a meeting, and then asked me if i wud like to take this further. i said i would have a chat with my son about it all. he was upset but said generally this lad is usually quite nice but sometimes lashes out and informed me that this guy has access to a special needs assistant, which i did not know. ive gone from being very angry to unsure how to deal with this as i have no idea what the others boys special needs are. how would you handle this situation.

I would look at the school policy for dealing with violence and aggression.
Just look at this from your son's point of view and what you want for him.
You don't need to think about the other child's possible SEN, that's for the school to consider.
If it's a one off and your son is ok and not concerned about an ongoing situation, then it should be dealt with as such.

Punching people in the face is unacceptable. It’s your job to support your son. It’s the Schools job to prevent future punching. The special needs is not really your concern here.
They very least your son should get is an apology from the Puncher.

If they’re suggesting you take it further, then I’d talk to them more about that to see what they have in mind. If you make a complaint it might help them in their battle to get more support for a child who needs it. Your primary focus needs to be to support your own son. He deserves to know that he should never be hit at school even if another child does have special needs, and he shouldn’t be expected to just brush it away.

If the child has sen they need to be supported more don't complain less because "sen sympathy" we had to show a lot of supporting evidence to get my child maximum funding on his ehcp if everyone says "it's fine" there is no supporting evidence

FYI my child isn't usually aggressive but he will bite if he winds himself up unchecked having the support means this hasn't happened for years it keeps everyone safe and happy

I don’t think hitting is acceptable in a school setting (or anywhere) special needs or not. The school needs to keep your son safe. I would most definitely be taking it further.

SEN or not, punching your child in the face because he wasn't happy isn't acceptable. How long did it go on for before teachers pulled him off?

I would find out what 'take it further' means and take it from there.

How are they going to keep your son safe going forward?

My children’s school has stopped football at lunch and break as it was causing so much drama. I’d probably suggest this to be honest.

It sounds like they want you to take it further if they asked you direct like that. I hope it’s so they can get the child support rather than because they are trying to remove him.
I would find out what they mean by it, and what they are going to do about it. Of course your child shouldn’t be harmed, by someone with sen or otherwise. The child may not be able to control it, but this is where interventions should be in place. My child came home having been hurt this last week by another child. Obviously I don’t want my child hurt but I know the school have identified the issue, dealt with it and put stuff in place that hopefully means it won’t happen again. Therefore I’m happy to leave it at that. The child also has sen (as does my child).

For goodness sake. Parents called in for a cosy little chat 24 hours after the incident? What's the betting it will be pushed under the carpet? He should have been immediately isolated and removed from the premises for the other children's safety. Dreadful temper over something trivial. I hope your lad is ok - he sounds really mature and a good problem solver by offering the shared solution.