Pregnancy advice

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Hi - I’m looking for some advice and you are my only outlet at the moment 💔 I have recently found out I am very early pregnant with my 3rd baby. The issue is I only gave birth 3 months ago and also have a 3 year old. My husband and I are happily married, both work full time and have a loving home for our babies. Becoming pregnant again wasn’t on the cards - we’ve been severely caught out. I genuinely don’t know what to do. I don’t necessarily believe termination is right when we’ve been irresponsible but at the same time we’re not ready financially or mentally for another child, especially as my 2nd child needs a bit more support and we’re not sure exactly how much extra she’ll need growing up. My last pregnancy nearly gave me a mental breakdown and I’m not sure I can cope mentally being pregnant again. Selfishly we had just started to get back into a routine and feeling great about where we’re at in life. I suffered with HG through my pregnancies and I’m worried that I won’t be able to be a great mum to my second baby who I am on maternity with if I’m in bed all day. I feel absolutely devastated. I don’t want to resent this 3rd baby because it wasn’t ‘planned’ and will mean serious changes but I also don’t think I can genuinely bring myself to end the pregnancy. My husband will support my decision but feels it’s not the right time for us. Has anyone been in a similar situation? Thank you 💔

Sorry you're in this situation OP.

It honestly sounds like you really don't want another baby right now, for multiple reasons all of which are valid and important. Your only reason for having it seems to be that you don't like the idea of terminating (hard to put in words, I mean who does?)

I would think about your current family and current children's needs first and foremost at the moment.

The majority of women who have abortions already have children. It’s very common.