Irrational nursery fear?

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I have a horrible fear of my child being abused in nursery. Especially when they can’t talk and can’t tell me if something has happened. I really can’t afford not to work and I have to use nursery. This is giving me sleepless nights and I’m aware it’s probably irrational, just looking for reassurance I guess. I’m drained, have anxiety so it’s likely coming from there.

Personally I think it's really, really rate that a baby or child will suffer abuse in a Nursery.

I'd try asking in the Childcare Section of what to look for in a Nursery, what to ask and what to avoid.

There are some MNers in that section who have experience of working in Nurseries

I have no advice but I think about this too. I went to view a nursery today but I always have this horrible thought constantly, even when I was there I thought about it. I know nursery is so good for development and social skills etc but it's always in the back of my mind

I felt a nursery was much much safer than a childminder or nanny. Safeguarding procedures will be in place, there's multiple adults around, many have cameras. I never worried about abuse at nursery. I was very worried about a nanny we had, and sacked her in the end (took child in her boyfriend's car!)

I know this isn't really the point of this thread but does it make any difference whether your child was with a childminder ? I know that isn't a solution to your anxiety exactly but as things stand that is how you feel and if you do feel differently about childminders, that's an alternative option.

This is quite irrational to be honest. Have you had difficulty with anxiety previously? It might be worth seeking some support as your anxiety will transfer to your child.