Hi all, I know this is probably a very common problem, but I have no solutions to move forward from this. I’m a stay at home mom with 2 girls and toddler doesn’t go to nursery.
my daughter A is 2.5 years old. We had a baby girl B who is now 8 weeks old. My very independent A suddenly became super clingy, super shy, m only wants mama, and can be very mean.
at the same time Newborn B literally needs me to survive.
right now I have the luxury of my mum over to help every morning to help me get started for the day. But she will not do this much longer. It is a lot of work.
my husband works and A just does not want him at all since B was born. he is heartbroken as before B was born, he had a beautiful relationship with A. Now she just does not even want to look at him and tells him to “Go away!!!” Every time he’s in the room.
she used to be so kind, so sweet, and listen so well and suddenly turned into this cruel toddler overnight. She is also now screaming “No” and doesn’t do anything we ask her so it makes getting ready difficult. She argues about everything we need to do. She’s completely refusing the potty now so we are back in nappies. She says no to nappies, no to wearing jumped, socks, certain outfits, going out, coming home, sitting for meals, you get the picture… we are firm and consistent so we never let her get away with the No! We do eventually manage to get her to sit down for meals, to change her nappy - all with her finally agreeing and not screaming and throwing a massive tantrum over it. But it’s so tiring. And takes Soooooo long! and it takes a lot of energy to keep changing tactics (for example making her toys hold her toothbrush and brush her teeth for her works now but won’t work in a few days and we’ll have to think of something else. Before this, her toothbrush did an elaborate song and dance before brushing her teeth)
but one thing she did change since B was born is that she now lets us wash her hands without saying No! And without having a fight over
I don’t know how to progress. When my mum is not around, I don’t know how to get both babies ready to go out for our activities. A is signed up for a class every morning on the weekdays and B has to tag along.
thankful for any advice or tips or just some encouragement!