If you have a newborn how often do you shower/bathe?

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I only ask as was talking to a friend today about how often people shower and I said 'Gosh when DS was born I didn't shower for about a week' and my friend was genuinely disgusted by this..

Tbh at the time we weren't going out anywhere and had no visitors for the first couple of weeks so wasn't bothered about being a bit smelly lol

For the first few weeks it could sometimes be 3-4 days as DS was SUPER clingy and the king of cluster feeds!

Now that DS is older (5m) I shower regularly but damn it seemed like a luxury in the early days!

So yeah, anyone else as grim as me when they had a newborn? 😂

So you slept with your baby on you at night? Babies can cry for a couple of minutes! I had 4 kids wouldn't have had the luxury of never being able to put one down. No need to be a martyr

No I didn't sleep with her on me but thats dangerous. I stayed awake with her on me. Once she was properly asleep I transferred her to the cot where she would sleep for around an hour before waking for her next feed. It would take an hour to feed her then half an hour until I could transfer her and repeat all night. This usually started around midnight/1am because she had colic and would cry non stop from 7pm until midnight/1am. I would spend hours walking up and down with her in the sling because that's the only way she would settle. DH didn't get home from work until 10.30pm. I couldn't shower in the middle of the night because the shower is on the wall next to DS bedroom and it would wake him. He has to be up for school at 6.30am.
Like I said she had tongue tie and colic because of that and was very fractious. I'm a nicu nurse so used to unsettled babies but this was off the scale. Nothing improved until she was snipped at 5 weeks.
I can't listen to my baby scream so of course I'll do whatever I can to help her. If that makes me a martyr then so be it.

Every day. I'd either get a shower before DH left for work in the morning or when DS went down for his first nap of the day. Feeling clean/put together was a big part of what kept me sane during the early days and still feeling like "me".

I have a ten week old and I have showered everyday since she was born. The lack of sleep, I need a shower to function!

Daily. It's vital for my mental health and if he cries for a couple of minutes in a safe space, he'll be fine. I have needs too.

I have 3 kids and pretty sure I never missed a daily shower! Always wore make up & clean clothes too. It's not that hard 🤷🏼‍♀️

Obviously had a shower every day. I was bleeding heavily for about 3 weeks so would’ve felt awful if I didn’t shower. Either DH held the baby for 5 minutes whilst I showered or I put him in his Moses basket or baby bouncer for 5 minutes.

Daily. Showered and dressed nicely (ish, not ever PJs or leggings etc)

It was really important to my mental and physical well being.

Daily
All the aftermath had to be showered off plus I slept better with another shower before bed. My child was so clingy!
The thought of not showering/daily makes me want to heave. So grim but that's a personal thing so what's right for me might not be for someone else.

I've showered every day since my twins were born and I became a single parent when they were 15 months old.

My MH would have been even further in the toilet if I'd not been able to get a proper wash. I used to just bring them in the bathroom with me.

Every day with a few exceptions. I found the newborn stage easy as baby would sleep in a nest and I would just bring her to the bathroom with me.

The “look, I can walk stage” was a bit more challenging though.

I did shower daily, or have a bath. You say he will only 'nap on you', but I wouldn't be able to just accept that, I couldn't cope with that. Have you tried to resolve this?

Every day. I used to shower before DH left for work, so he could hold the baby. I’m not a tidy/clean obsessive, but I have to shower and put on clean clothes every day, however ill/tired I am.

What do you think? Of course parents with Velcro/vocal babies try to resolve it! FYI, coping isn’t optional - you get dealt the hand you get dealt.

Dd was like this and almost broke me. I spent a fortune trying to resolve it and watched her defeat every option. Not even my sil with decades of nannying experience managed to make any difference when I begged her to step in and help us.

For anyone going through this now - I promise you it gets better eventually.

I STANK after the births of my kids. Horrific BO like a builder out in the summer sun. Post birth Hormones are not good to me So I showered daily. It only takes seconds if you're not washing your hair.

I can't believe that people don't shower daily. Rank.

During newborn and baby phase my showering habits were very good with my 1st, I often used the 2st morning nap for that. My difficulties came with my 2nd cause even when they were napping I couldn't leave my 2yo unsupervised.Aimed for every 2nd day but often sleep was more important to me. Hair washing really took a hit too but actually I don't think it needed washed so often so now I only wash it twice a week anyway.

I had a bath pretty much every day while DH was still on paternity leave. Now he’s back at work and baby is four weeks old I’m down to maybe once midweek and both weekend days. Tbh, if the baby is cluster feeding or won’t settle with DH I take him in the bath with me. The bath is my happy place and I need it to stay sane.

Daily, it made me feel much better and ready and face the day!
I would feel disgusting if I didn't wash every day. It doesn't have to be a long shower it only takes a few minutes.
I've worked as a nurse for years and found people always feel better when they have had a shower! So no matter how sleep deprived I was I made sure I was showered!