I need help please. I'm a mum of a 16 year old son. He screamed at me and walked out the house after I tried to have a conversation with him about balance between study and play. This was after parent teachers eve where they advised he needs to do more in free time as A level is intense and he will get left behind if he doesn't. He completely acted out of character! Started shouting and screaming and violently threw his laptop and phone at me.
After he walked out, he called social services and told them what i can only imagine to be some awful untrue things. He is staying with a 'friend" that I have never met or even heard him speak of. Friends mum has made no attempt to contact me. School has classed him as a vulnerable adult . No one will talk to me and tell me what hes saying for me to understand or even say as a parent what happened. They are all treating me like someone he needs to be protected from 💔💔😢😢
I'm beyond heart broken. I'm shocked as we were always close, and he was till now a respectful polite young man. I am totally in a state of shock at the fact he would lie about me. All I know from social services is that he feels unsafe to come home. Unsafe? I'm his mum and I've dedicated my life to loving him and providing for him. He's surrounded by love, as an only child and only grandchild he's the centre of our worlds. What's happened? Is he on drugs? Is he being influenced? I get 16 going on 17 is a difficult age, but how did it get to this from a calm conversation about balance?
This is the hardest most painful experience of my life, and I feel like I'm losing my mind. I'm anxious beyond measure, I'm not sleeping, can't focus, constantly trying to get my head around why this is happening, whats going on with him. How did i miss something? I'm worried about him and what he is being exposed to where ever he is.
He won't come home, it's been nearly 2 weeks. he blocks everyones calls and doesnt respond to messages. When I started trying to look at what I can do to get him home I read he can move out at 16??!! However I would still have legal responsibility.
I don't understand what this means in reality? If he won't come home and I have no idea where he is living, how can I have legal responsibility for him?
But if something happens to him how can I be responsible?
I'm sorry to babble my heads all over the place. Any advice would be appreciated 🙏🏽