Ds’ dad left me when I was pregnant. We had been living together, things weren’t great as he withdraw a lot when I was pregnant, stayed at work late etc, drunk most nights, made me feel very alone. However, I didn’t anticipate him leaving me without any explanation which is what he did. Literally one day I got home and not a trace of him and he refused to answer my calls etc. I heard from him a week before pregnancy to say he didn’t think ds was his and that I should leave him alone. This was after around six weeks of silence following my attempts to talk. Ds is now 3 and I claimed maintenance a while back. Still nothing from ex DP. To be honest I still struggle with the fact I have no explanation as to why he left. I go over the arguments we had a lot but they were largely driven by him, I spent hours trying to reason with him and be cheerful etc so I don’t think there was much I specifically did wrong if you see what I mean? I know a couple of years ago he referred to me as ‘a nightmare’ apparently… though this was never something he expressed to me when together. Apparently he’s not in a new relationship.
anyway a friend said last night that I should ‘get my story straight’ for ds before he starts asking questions. My friend thinks one day ds will look for my ex and who knows what ex will say… I’ve no idea either as like I say I was never given a reason. She thinks I should prepare ds for therapy? I feel really overwhelmed by her comments. I’m not in a new relationship so he has no other male figure really, and I don’t think I will look for a relationship any time soon either. I’m really sad about it all. I just want ds to be happy and I feel it’s all doomed.