First child = yellow
Second child = purple.
And I kind of wonder where the next few years are on that chart 😂
It's a myth that feeds always get further apart, become more predictable etc. It's true for some babies, not for others. Some (like my first) come out with nights and days the right way round, and sleep only becomes rubbish later. We didn't get random good nights until nearer a year (after 4m)
The OPs sleep is likely to improve within the next few years, and have some good phases hopefully a lot sooner. I don't think saying 12 weeks is any more or less helpful than saying 18y. It depends so much on the child.
MN is rubbish for this sort of thing because so many of us are in our own little world of sleep deprivation, and it's hard to look beyond that. I saw every hour last night, and maybe managed 4 hours broken, up with my nearly 4yo. I haven't slept for a 2 hour stretch yet this week, and am trying to concentrate on work. So the idea of sleep becoming and staying good after a few months is alien to me. The person that's up every hour with their 1yo, who reads that it's 'much easier when they are 1 because they sleep' is likely to post a cranky answer.
I think deep down we all appreciate that rubbish sleep is awful and that being catapulted back into no sleep land is hell, but we're all so tired as a group that is hard to avoid the 'I'm most tired' game.
💐 to all the fellow sleep deprived mums out there who are blinking yo stay awake, whether your child is 4 days or 4 years. Once day we'll sleep again apparently