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How many hours does your partner work ?

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Sugargliderwombat · 21/02/2023 17:17

My partner took on a new job without discussing it when I was 9 months pregnant. He now leaves the house 7am and gets home between 6.30 and 7. Once he is trained he will be on call for 24 hours once a week.

I'm curious, what kind of hours do your partners do? (those with babies at home).

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babynoname22 · 21/02/2023 18:26

I have 5 month old and 3 years old. Husand does week of days and weeks of nights in Rota 7-7

HotDogHotDiggityDog · 21/02/2023 18:27

My husband works offshore so is away for three weeks at a time then home for three weeks. When he is away, he works 6am-6pm everyday for those three weeks. Currently have a 3 year old and will also soon have a newborn Whilst the three weeks away are full on whilst he is home for the three weeks, we pretty much parent equal time but he does all of the cooking as well. We also give each other plenty of breaks, time away with friends etc.

wineandsun · 21/02/2023 18:32

Dh is away Sunday evening until Friday lunch time. I work full time. Have 1 x DD aged 4. Will be like this for the next 2 years (hopefully home Thursday evening).

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doingitalllagain · 21/02/2023 18:41

2 kids under 4, husband works 8am-5pm 5 days a week but only a 5 min drive from home which works well. He drops our older child off at breakfast club at school so I don't have to do school run (I'm on maternity leave with newborn). He often comes home for an hour on his lunch break which is nice. He works Saturdays which isn't ideal, but every Sunday off and every Monday which saves on a day of childcare costs when I go back to work as I work Mon-Weds. I'd prefer the whole weekend but it's not too bad.

TenoringBehind · 21/02/2023 18:42

When our children were young he worked about 18 hours a day in an office, rather conveniently avoiding doing anything much with them.

Now they are teens he works very minimal hours and wfh. His working day is 8ish to 5ish but he takes bigs chucks of that off to go shopping, walking, potter in the garden play computer games.

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LatteToday · 21/02/2023 18:49

When mine were small DH left the house at 730am, returned home at 8pm, and then usually had at least a few hours work to do in the evening.

Had to do a few hours each weekend day.

Now he's away Sunday to Thursday, works 7am to 8pm Fridays, and usually around 5 hours each weekend day- sometimes more depending on what’s happening at work. This last week he was working at home (rare) so he worked 7am-7pm Monday to Wednesday. Then thurs-Saturday he was working 7am-10pm. He only did a few hours on Sunday.

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Sugargliderwombat · 21/02/2023 18:51

Hats off to everyone that does crazy hours (or holds the fort while your OHs do!), there are so many of you!

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lilroo87 · 21/02/2023 18:55

My DP is out of the house the same hours. His last job was an earlier start so he'd be gone 6-6/7. Sometimes works weekends aswell.
I have a 19 month old and an 8 week old

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Sugargliderwombat · 21/02/2023 18:59

GCWorkNightmare · 21/02/2023 18:17

Same. He was only home for 36 hours a week for the first 2 years.

Then home with every other week on call 24/7 till she was 5.

I worked on a consultancy basis from when she was 9 months till she was 6. Now I’m the one away 3ish days a week on average.

The OP’s scenario doesn’t seem too bad.

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Oh I am sure there are millions of others in more difficult situations ! Single parents, those looking for work, people in dangerous or stressful public sector jobs, I'm just curious really as my OH changed after I was already pregnant when we don't actually need the extra money.

I also do all the housework, baby care and all of the mental load so I'm just getting a bit fed up, I'm a real "life is too short" kind of person so I'd rather have less money but have him around more.

It's really interesting though and given me some perspective 😁, thanks all!

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Dacadactyl · 21/02/2023 19:07

Wow some of these hours are crazy!

When ours were small years ago, my DH would do 8-4pm every day and be home for 4.45pm. I was a SAHM and even 8 til 4.45 felt like forever!

He now WFH every day.

MexicanDrinkingWorm · 21/02/2023 19:28

Agree with PP that some of these hours are mad!
my partner probably does around 35 hours a week over 4 days, the 5th weekday he does childcare for our toddler.
I work the same and cover a different weekday.
i definitely do more nursery runs and let him get off to work earlier but I appreciate the fact he’s willing to be equal in terms of days pulling his weight

PretzelBite · 21/02/2023 19:29

55-60 hours at the office. Since baby I’ve always envied those with dps who work from home and can help out on breaks etc!

Teapots1991 · 21/02/2023 19:41

2 days leaves at 6am home 9.30pm(ish)

2 Night shifts leaves 4.30pm home 11am(ish)

He generally gyms after work or sleeps for a few hours if been super busy.

Plus, we have a business which can sometimes take up entire days on his 3 days off. Some weeks we have 1-2 free days together.

I work from home (Evenings) doing all our admin etc. No help, kids are either with me or both of us.

Both under 5, one in school.

Life's a blur!

babynoname22 · 21/02/2023 21:35

@Dacadactyl he either had an extremely well paid job or things didn't cost so much back then! Would love to be in that situation

louise5754 · 21/02/2023 21:37

Leaves about 2pm Sunday and gets home around 11pm Friday. I'm in Yorkshire he's in Scotland.

Dacadactyl · 21/02/2023 21:45

babynoname22 · 21/02/2023 21:35

@Dacadactyl he either had an extremely well paid job or things didn't cost so much back then! Would love to be in that situation

No. This was back in 2007 when we had our first child. I was 21, him 23. I worked for about 15 months and saved EVERY PENNY I earned after paying rent to my parents (granted, extended family were generous so I didn't have to buy a solitary thing for baby until she was at least 6 months old). Upshot of it was we moved to a cheaper area, haggled hard on house price and put down nigh on a 50% deposit. I gave up work because we could afford mortgage on one salary and didn't want the kids in childcare.

Husband was not well paid then at all, although he has been promoted a number of times in the intervening years.

DragonbornMum · 21/02/2023 22:12

My husband leaves the house at 7 every morning, and gets home between 5:30 (on a good day) and 7:00 (bad day). We've mostly been having bad days for the last uear or so. Plus works every other weekend until 2:30 (ie regularly working 12 days in a row)

He is currently looking for another job so we can spend more family time together

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