Posted similar but it’s now..
I’m BF, his mum has been desperate to babysit and have baby stay over at hers pretty much since first few weeks. She has kept volunteering. “Oh we can take her” etc. Helpful but never seen her at all in pregnancy. Baby is now 2 month old and I have said I can’t becaue of BF but have now given baby to her for few hours. She had few weekends ago where left from around 4 to 8pm which was hard for me as she kept saying just stay out longer and we’ll babysit, partner was loving freedom and wanted to stay out. I just wanted to go home as boobs were feeling full! And she hasn’t even stayed alone with my mum and dad for that length. Normally when I go back to my mum and dads to stay (long distance) I’m in house or gone an hour/2 at most. His mum got for few hours. Then last week she volunteered to take for few hours on the Monday. I told her how much she drinks and what makes settle. “OK she is fine and put my name. I thought from text it seemed like she was getting that I was being OTT. Anyways Monday night she again offered to take her for few hours on the following day (Tuesday) I said to my boyfriend could we just wait to see what time on the Tuesday because I’m all over place and wanted to have her BF and settled. Eventually at 2pm on Tuesday baby was OK but I was feeling breast pain and thought masitis! So had to try get her to feed. I eventually gave the text for boyfriends mums partner to come collect. I apologised myself as had never gave them a time until I gave the text that was all ready in afternoon. They’re 5 mins away. He the had dig “we’ve been ready since 11am” I hardly know them. :/ I didn’t put a time because can’t predict how baby will be as she is refluxy and sicky sometimes after feeds.
I thought agreeing to allow myself to have few hours would be great, but I actually feel more stressed. I feel like giving up BF because it feels like an inconvenience to his family. Especially last Tuesday I said to boyfriend my boobs are starting to hurt which was unsure if because Monday went from 1:30 to 6pm without boob. The Tuesday I said to boyfriend I want her back for Bf Because of pain and now his mum is saying oh she can stay longer
I now worry each week she will be looking to take her, and what I have started as now if I start saying no she might take offence and my boyfriend.
he doesn’t understand what masitis is and said maybe give up breastfeeding! I should stand up but have ptsd and mh and scared to ://