DS3 told the nursery I gave him a bruised eye!

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My 3 year old was running and collided with another kid at a gymnastics club on Friday.

Today was his first day back at nursery and I got a call this afternoon saying they’d noticed the bruise and my son told them mummy did it! When I picked him up I asked him myself how he hurt his face and he again said “you did!”, smiling.

They got me to sign the at home accident form but am I going to get social turning up on my doorstep? Do the nursery tell me if they’re reporting?

Im mortified!

Have you asked him why he said it?? Don't stress too much, if you do get social services they know well that 3 year olds say all kind of things and get in all kinds of accidents. I don't think they do tell if they're reporting as if there were a genuine situation that could mean parents to hide certain things, tell children what to say etc. Honestly, just go on with life as normal, and sort things out if they do come to be.

@ourflagmeansdeath he is turning 3 next week so he wouldn’t really be able to tell me why he said it. I asked him if he remembered what happened to his face at gymnastics and he said yes!

Would the accident have been recalled by anyone or noted down at gymnastics club? I doubt the school would get anyone involved but least you could always refer them to the gymnastics club?

@FT123456 Im guessing there’s CCTV at the club which I guess would show the accident and me running across to get him. If it came down to it!

Just an idea, but hopefully it doesn't come down to that OP.

This kind of thing is why I always cringe when I read parents on here talking of “fuming” over incidents at school or nursery, something the teacher has done or said to their child etc, as reported by their 3, 4, 5… even 10 or 11 year old. Kids are not reliable narrators, and sometimes parents don’t realise that until it’s themselves that the kids are being unreliable about, rather than believing everything they say about what happened at school.

Hope you get it cleared up, OP.

I can’t stop thinking about it and worrying.

What exactly will the social do if they become involved?

The nursery will have (or should have) recorded it on their safeguarding system. If you go back to them to discuss it or whatever that too will be recorded on the same system. (Or should be)

All of these little bits are recorded in order to make a picture so that if a child is in a situation that places them in danger there is a chance of catching it.

They will have written something like
'When James arrived at nursery this morning he has a bruise above his left eye. Sophie asked James what had happened to his face and he said 'mummy did it'. Lucy spoke to James' mother after the session and asked her about James eye and was told that he bumped into some equipment at his gymnastics session on Friday.'

They will tell you if they refer to childrens services..

Thanks. I know it’s a good thing that these things are in place but I now feel like wrapping him up in cotton wool as I’m fearful he’ll go in with another bruise.