I feel so horrible

[Booboo3629]

Hi all , I'm currently sat in tears as feel like the world's worse mum ! My baby is 11months old he keeps waking up at 4.30 /5am every morning im literally getting hardly any sleep ! I can't go to bed till late as iv got to sort his bottles , put him to bed etc his dad doesn't, I work his dad does not he reckons it's due to his health but he's bone idle to be honest , anyway every time baby wakes he's putting him in our bed where then I get hair pulled feet in my back etc which keeps me awake ! All whilst his dad stays asleep ! I was that mad this morning I stomped down stairs and got his bottle as his dad couldn't be arsed! I'm literally running on empty because I have to work , run a house , bath , change feed etc the baby while he hardly does sod all yes he'll have him now and then but he doesn't do what I do , I only work 3.5 hours a day atm but when I come home iv every thing to do , his dad gets to have naps etc while I'm busy I wish I could bloody have naps and go out when I want ! I obviously love my baby to bits but this morning I had enough 😩 sorry for the rant but am I just feel awful !

So have you had it out with him? How is this situation remotely acceptable?

What is the point of your 'partner'? He's not doing his share of parenting, he's not cooking or cleaning or adulting. Ask him to leave. Your life would be easier.

Trying not to ask how you can afford to run a house on you working 3.5 hours a day....

Did he work before you had a dc? Did you talk about who would do what around the house, who would get up with the baby, etc? Have you asked him to do his share?

@heartchakra @piedbeauty I have and he was ok for abit soon cjanged after giving his job up , so yes he did work we both did before baby was born also agreed on taking it in turns for feeding etc but that's soon changed.

@heartchakra @piedbeauty I work 5 days a week for got to add aswell

Well, you're certainly not the world's worst mum, but he's a candidate for world's worst dad.

Talk to him. Tell him how unfair he's being. Set out your expectations. If he doesn't meet them, you can either put up with it or make plans to separate.

Do you have RL support? Who owns/rents your house?

I rent it its all in my name iv contacted the health visitor today and she said shes going to have a chat with x

Jesus how the hell do you do it, you deserve a medal but seriously you deserve better than this, I hope you can get things sorted out x

Right, so that's good! Ask him to leave.

Then claim CMS, and see what benefits you'reentitled to.