Weekend long hen do ft mummy mard, ebf toddler

[Strawberryblondee]

So, I have a hen do that I'm supposed to attend in April from Friday to Sunday. My dilemma is that although my (at that time will be 18mo) toddler relies solely on me for nighttime comfort.

Whenever I go out currently he will settle out of routine e.g. running around downstairs rather tham being fed to sleep and put down in bed until he conks out on the sofa but once he wakes in the night he is inconsolable without me, sometimes to the point of hyperventilating. He has never slept out as I've never been comfortable with it, only left with my partner or his mum on the rare occasion we go out until late.

So really my question is, does anyone have any advice on how I can prepare him for this? I feel awful about it but I also feel like I really need and want this break, leaving out the fact this hen do has cost be 100's of pounds to attend. I'm just at a loss on what to do, I really don't want to miss it but I also don't want my baby and my partner to suffer without me😔.

Get him used to having a bottle and your partner putting him to bed at least some of the time.

Could anyone else try having him overnight? I found it less distressing for the wee one to be somewhere different so the whole thing was a novelty…
and they wouldn’t waken up expecting to see you there. Whereas if he wakes up at home he will expect what he always has had… so you either start new settling routines and shared bedtime/
night settling as you’ve time to reprogram before the weekend. Or you see if someone else can try an overnight like grandma etc?

Could they go and be around nearby at this weekend like in a travel lodge?

I just went for one night this month instead of the three everyone else did. I did no prep beforehand because I read you can't really prepare them as it'll be totally different when you're not in the house and they don't understand time. My ebf 18 month old coped really well bedsharing with Dadda and just made up for it by attaching to the boob when I got home the next afternoon. Then back to business as usual. I had to hand express for comfort before bed. I'm so glad I didn't do any prep because it would have just upset us both for no need.