Newborn settles with DP

[Becproc23]

I’m looking for some advice regarding my 3 week old DS.

Throughout the day and sometimes at night, he is colicky and appears to cry for what seems no reason at all.

When I pick him up, I try holding him in different ways to see if there is a position that’s more comfortable and this rarely seems to work. However, as soon as I give him to my DP, he calms.

Does anyone else have similar experiences to this? Does anyone know why DS might feel calmer with Dad?

You smell of milk! Is he breastfed?

Yeah my DC calmed beautifully on my DH! It was so lovely to see. He really had a talent for it. Enjoy it 🥰

No, he is formula fed only.

My DD was like this for a while, so I would wear DHs jumpers to trick her, sometimes it worked! But just enjoy it, everything is a phase so before you no it baby will be settling on you, or neither of you, or both of you.

Sometimes the dads are less tense. I think the babies can sense this. Not that I'm saying "be less tense" but it could explain it.

Do you have a plain white wall in your house? If so, try hoiking the baby up so it's head is over your shoulder and standing so all they can see is the blamk white wall. Used to weirdly chill mine out.

I think babies are very skilled at sensing things.. like dogs sense fear kind of thing. I think its normal for new mums to be naturally more anxious and I think se babies pick up on that

Does he talk to him?
Does he talk to you?
Has your son spent 9 months feeling the sound of your husbands voice in the womb, listening to your heartbeat, and learning that your husband voice means peace?

That’s it then. He’s biologically wired to look for your milk, so he’ll struggle to settle on you because he can smell the milk and he wants it.

What milk? He is 3 weeks old, her milk will have dried up.

Just enjoy handing him over when he cries and go make yourself a cup of tea 😁

It can take months for breastmilk to truly dry up, even if mum isn’t leaking anymore. Baby will be able to smell it.

This is a good thing. Enjoy it while it lasts imo.

Yes my milk has dried up. Has been for a while now. I’m wondering whether he senses my anxiety. When the crying goes on for 2 hours or more, I can get quite stressed about it. Never know what to do to help him.

My baby was like this for about a week.. sometimes a change of hands just settle them, don't worry about it

It’s “dried up” in the sense you’re not leaking anymore, but it takes months to truly disappear so he will be able to smell it still. It’s biology and it’s natural for him.

Have you tried a dummy? That might help to sooth him.

I wonder if DP is more relaxed and baby can sense this?

I would stick DD in the sling and just walk around with her until she got drowsy and then tuck her head in and get on with whatever I needed to do. I always figured because she was warm and pressed against me and she could hear my heartbeat and feel the way I walked she found that calming.
But I breastfed so I didn’t face the possibility of that being an issue.