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Is this OK for a 9 month old?

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Jendrw5 · 16/02/2023 19:11

I'm a first time mum to a 9 month old boy, I've not really known any babies before him except his cousin who's 12 months old.

I know I shouldn't compare, but when she was his age she was easily pulling to stand and crawling everywhere, he's not doing either. He bum shuffles a lot and can army crawl but doesn't do that too often. He had reflux as a small baby so I don't think he likes being on his belly much.

I'm wondering if I should do more to help him pull to stand, he can get on his knees so I've tried holding toys higher so he can pull himself up to his feet to reach them, but then he moans and puts his hands on me and I end up giving him a cuddle instead and just giving him his toy.

I feel like I maybe 'rescue' him too much and that's why he's not learnt it yet. I hate to see him upset but should I let him practice for longer even though he's not happy or just keep doing what I'm doing? I know I'm being a bit daft worrying because he will obviously get there eventually.

Sorry for the long post, I just feel like I have no idea what I'm doing sometimes!

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bakewellbride · 16/02/2023 19:14

Don't worry op! My ds basically sat there like a potato for absolutely ages. Didn't walk until 18 months etc etc. A very 'placid' baby - how he was described by many.

Well he's 4 and a half now and doing great, always the first to run into school every day, happy and polite, loads of friends. Wen he was in preschool gymnastics club he won a medal. If you saw him and I told u he'd done everything extremely early as a baby you'd have no reason to not believe me. Relax and enjoy, they're all different.

User1706 · 16/02/2023 19:17

I wouldn't worry I'm 31 and I never crawled I bum shuffled then got up to walk one day.

All children are completely different and learn things in different ways/ at different rates. I don't agree with the you can 'spoil' or 'rescue' a young child too much the more they know you'll always be there for them the more they'll flourish and their confidence will grow. Keep doing what you're doing ❤

DragonbornMum · 16/02/2023 19:27

He's fine! Babies are not robots and do not do the same things. 9 months is a perfectly acceptable age to not be pulling up to stand.

As he shuffles, you may find he never crawls. This is also normal.

Enjoy your baby and stop comparing!

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AnnaTortoiseshell · 16/02/2023 19:31

He’s fine. They all do different things at different times. He’ll get there. I always think it’s how you see that babies’ personalities are really clear right from the start. He’s just into different things.

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Jendrw5 · 16/02/2023 19:37

Thank you for your replies and reassurance.

I will definitely try not to compare him to other babies, I know I shouldn't be doing that. I just worry sometimes that I should be doing more to help him develop.

I'm definitely going to make a conscious effort to relax and enjoy him more, he is a lovely boy, except when he's throwing food at me 😅

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purplejungle · 16/02/2023 19:40

If you have Instagram recommend following milestones and motherhood who has loads of great advice for supporting babies' development.

VivaVivaa · 16/02/2023 19:44

My DS didn’t move at all until well over 1. He never crawled, bum shuffled and cruised for a short while then went straight to walking at 1.5ish. He looked so behind and delayed compared to everyone else’s babies and I understand why you are worried.

Funny thing is, he started talking early and was speaking in long complex sentences by the age of 2, so in the space of a year went from looking massively behind to very advanced. Baby development really is individual, so with the benefit of hindsight I’d say try and not worry to much.

Bells3032 · 16/02/2023 19:44

It's normal. They all develop at different rates. My best friends daughter didn't start crawling til 11.5 months and started walking two weeks later. My daughter crawled at 7.5 months and at 14 months us still not walking. I deff would not be worried about a 9 month old not pulling themselves up! It's very early for that anyway.

chillih · 16/02/2023 20:18

Definitely normal. DS didn't start crawling/pulling to stand til about 9.5 months but then walked at 11 months, they figure it out in their own time!

Agree with PPs recommendation of Milestones and Motherhood on instagram, she's great

bakewellbride · 16/02/2023 21:13

Bluey - baby race. A must watch! It's on YouTube

CosieRotton · 17/02/2023 03:03

Mine started crawling at 10.5 months after not having shown much sign of it beforehand (a little bum shuffling and didn’t like being on tummy). He started pulling to stand at the same time.

6 weeks later and he’s racing around the house on all fours, loves crawling up the stairs (supervised!) and cruises a lot.

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