Can't cope with 2 under 2

[Anon_92]

Literally that. I have a 23 month old and a 10 week old and I just cannot cope. New baby won't sleep anywhere but on me and toddler is stubborn and strong. Toddler in nursery a few mornings a week but absolutely hating my life right now. Before anyone flames me, I am grateful for both of them but not sleeping due to having a baby sleeping on me most of that time.

Sorry it’s so tricky. It does honestly get better.

do ypu have a double pram? I did used to find it helped to get out every day with no one touching me if I could.

can your partner do an evening shift with the baby so you can go to bed and get some sleep? This was a life saver for me when we had clingy babies.

I hope things improve soon.

Thanks :)

My toddler won't go in a pram easily anymore. He has a trike that he will use but that's about it.

I hate the idea of going to bed early after an awful day with them. I already am in bed by 8.30/9.

Sorry no advice - I'm a single
Mum of 3 including twins under 2. There Is always someone asleep on me - then during the day it's sat on me or jumping on me I'll just get someone to sleep and inch away and try and escape then the other wakes up. If it's any consolation they do grow out of it - my eldest did around age 3 x

This stage is really hard. Try writing out a loose timetable for the week. Even if you dont stick to it. Look up local activities even if you don't always go every week. Its just a question of making life easier if you can. Good idea to have an early night once a week.

Wow that's a lot to cope with. I should add that I'm also battling binge eating which throws my mood quite a lot.

I really struggle to keep the toddler entertained as well which doesn't help!

@Anon_92

My diet is appalling and I'll binge eat unhealthy food just to give me sugar to get through the night

That's what I'm doing too. Just feeling exhausted

Sounds brutal.

Can you afford more childcare for 2 year old?

Not really atm. We will in a few months but things are just a little tight right now.

It’s okay hardly anyone can cope with what your coping with.

when mine were little I used to go to my friends house (who also had 2 under 2) and we would often have a cry and some cake / sweets because we were so tired and overwrought. Have you got a friend or someone who understands? Can be great to just have a bit of support / a moan.

it will get better though. In the meantime you need to give yourself a massive break , bin off any non essential tasks, make / buy easy meals, if you have anyone who can help, swallow your pride and ring them so you can have some sleep, let ur toddler watch telly for a bit if you need to.

it feels like an age, but it does pass.

I can't cope either. I hope it's gotten better for you!

Have you got a sling? Lifesaver for a baby who wants to sleep on you while you play with toddler.

This was me and it was awful my mental health was really affected. Get as much support as you can from people you know and other mums, try and get out and walk with the double buggy for a bit every day to get fresh air. Echoing pp above it feels like forever but when they go to school it feels like it has gone so fast- you'll be the mum with two bigger kids with a lovely age gap in no time.