Hen do when baby's 2 months old?

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Hi

I'm currently 39 weeks pregnant with my first and have just been invited on a hen do in 10 weeks time (so baby will be around 2 months old). The hen do is for one of my best friends so I really want to go to at least some of it but I obviously have no idea how I'll feel so just wanted to get some feelings from those who've already had babies, about what you'd have been comfortable with.

The plan for the hen do is
Day 1 - aquapark, fancy wine lunch, then stay over at house for cocktails & games etc.
Day 2 - walk and lunch.

The location is ~1.5-2 hours away from me.

They are booking the activities this week so I need to decide what I want to take part in. Obviously I could always change my mind after and just accept I need to pay, I'm okay with that.

My current thinking is to do the aquapark and wine lunch on the first day, pumping in between as hoping to EBF. Then head home. This would make it quite a long day away from baby (probably 8am-6pm) but mean I'm not away overnight. Or DH would happily come with me so I could see baby in-between but I think it would be hard to have such a long day out of the house for DH and baby?

Other alternative is we get an Airbnb locally and DH stays overnight with baby, this means I could go to all activities but stay elsewhere overnight and could see baby in-between activities. Would be an extra ~£90 though so not sure if it's worth it.

Re aquapark, I realise this will depend on what sort of birth I have and my recovery. I'm hoping by 2 months pp I'll feel up to it but if this is massively ambitious then please let me know!

Thanks for any input/advice x

I think you're being a bit ambitious to think you'll manage all of it, but im sure you'll be able to manage some. Definitely go plan B with husband and baby staying near to make it easier.

Definitely the Airbnb. I was a mess at 2 months - wouldn't have been able to do anything - but it might be good for your sanity to get out a bit

I think if you don’t mind potentially losing the money for the aqua park I would book that too. It sounds like you really want to go and be a part of it all, so why not! Plan to take part in everything but be open to last minute changes of mind if needs be. I definitely could have done a water park 2 months postpartum with all 4 of mine if I’d fancied it I think.

maybe just a quick chat with your friends to say you might need to dip out at certain parts, so they’re well aware there might be changes.

In actual fact I think I’d have skipped the air bnb altogether and just enjoyed my two days away: presumably you have a car and can get home at any point if you want/need to x

I don't think you'll feel like the aqua park id just do the lunch

I went on a hen do when baby was 6 or 7 weeks old. She came with me (was all okay'd before). Absolutely no way I could have left her. We got an air bnb close by and I retired gracefully at about 6pm and left them all to get drunk 😂

All of your plans sound OK-ish other than the aquapark bit so do not pay for it. The rest of it depends on your birth, whether you will be breastfeeding and so on. If you are, I suspect you will need to be around "a lot" and any sort of other activities will be curtailed whether you like it or not. My first was on and off the breast every few hours. I went away for a "local" girls weekend 6 weeks after my second born, who was mixed fed, but mainly bottle fed at that time, and that was quite difficult. Have had two more since and never even attempted, just hard work and people do not understand that you are not the same person. It is not impossible - but had I had my time again, and in your shoes, I probably wouldn't do anything more than an Airbnb with partner, and a token turn up. Hope this helps, it probably isn't what you want to hear, but allowances really do need to be made xx

I wouldn't have gone at all at that age postpartum - maybe to lunch if I could bring baby.

Just noticed this thread is from feb

op what did you end up doing?