I hate being left on my own

[Josie1968]

My husband sometimes takes our daughter away for 2/3 days. They go to the Lakes hill walking which they enjoy. But I hate being left at home on my own, I know that sounds ridiculous!! My daughter is 11 and we’re very close and I miss her when she’s not here. I don’t like the silence, it’s too quiet. It’s not like i don’t have stuff to do, I’ve got loads of stuff I need to crack on with and I’ll make best use of the time. But I’ll be glad when they’re back. Anyone else feel like this? I have a friend who loves being on her own and thrives when everyone leaves her to her own devices.. but I really don’t. :(

Would you prefer to go with them OP?

Why can't you go with them?

Go with them?

I’m working. We have to split our annual leave to cover school holidays. We normally get a week a year when we’re off together. He likes to spend time just the two of them.. but yes I’d like to go if i could but I don’t want to seem needy!! 😩

Why can’t you go? My kids are with me 24/7 and not gonna lie I would love this

Also my knees are a bit dodgy, I might hold them up if I went x

Go out and fi things with friends whike they away? Do volunteering? You can go out and do things with other people?

Jesus I’d love dh to take the kids somewhere for a few nights! Never happens though.
It does seem a bit needy though, sorry. I’d relish the thought of a few whole days and nights to not have to think about what food I need to top up, ensuring the laundry is up to date, mealtimes, housework, all of it.
do you not have friends you are overdue catch ups with?

My DH is a keen hillwalker and I hold him up when we go together so I know how you feel.

If you'd like to go with them I think you should say so. A compromise could be walks that are more on the level, would your DH be prepared to do that occasionally if you can get the time off together?

Parenting involves a lot of compromises! Unless you can afford to get help when you both don’t have annual leave, then how you’re splitting is the best way. I know it seems hard for you, but I remember so fondly the times when my dad and I spent time together - wasn’t enough! You sound like amazing parents and your child gets to have one-on-one time with both parents, which is something I aspire to do with ours. Yes, you’ll always feel like you miss out, but I bet your husband feels the same when it’s your time to do the holiday shift. Take comfort in the fact your child is having an awesome time!

@cestlavielife @TheChosenTwo yes I have loads of things I need to do, mainly work! But I’m catching up with a friend too so that will be nice. Sadly I don’t have much time for volunteering as my job is so full on, I work full time and my job always spills over into my own time-evenings and weekends. So I’m going to crack on with that while they’re away 🤪

@Darkoutsideclosethecurtains he probably would but I don’t like to say as I know it’s their special time together. But yeah when I put this post up I was just feeling sad as I miss them when they’re away. We have dogs too and they’re going as well so it will be so quiet!! 😅 I like the hustle and bustle when everyone is home!!

@Kranke thank you for the lovely reply. Yes I do take comfort in it and I know she enjoys it. I’m glad you have lovely memories of time spent with your dad. I’d never ask to go with them as it’s their time together 😊 my husband loves being on his own, he relishes it so he’s never bothered when we do anything. He’ll just take off and do a 20 mile walk with the dogs!! 🤣

I love having time on my own if my husband and children are away, binge watching a Netflix series, reading books etc. I still miss them a bit and wouldn’t like to be away from them longer than a week.