Does your 17 year old have a curfew?

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Dd just turned 17 and seems to have a very active social life all of a sudden.
I have asked her to be home by 10:30 on school nights, which she normally is, but then she will study until 1:30.
Weekends, she often gets in around 2.

I am concerned she is not getting enough sleep. Part of me says, she is 17, when I was her age I was out drinking (she isn't - she has no interest in alcohol) and part of me says she is almost an adult, and needs to sort herself out.
We live abroad and she is doing IB, so there is quite a lot of pressure.
What time does your 17 year old come home at night?

Weekdays only out for clubs/activities...generally finished at 10pm. Weekends midnight. But as I'm her taxi, we also have an agreement that if I message to say I want to go to bed, she is collected earlier. We're also generally the hang out house, so home/lights out at midnight.

Weekends 2am would be the absolute latest as I can’t sleep until they are in.
only once has she let me down when I rang and rang and rang at 2am- no answer - in the end a boy answered and said she was too drunk to speak to me! I insisted he try and she just grunted down the ‘phone. I had to drive across london for 45 mins at 2am to fetch her - only to find that she had thrown up down MY COAT! Yes I woke her early with an offer of fried eggs. Her shame was punishment enough. She never did it again.

Weekends- depends what he’s doing but 1.30 is common. He doesn’t really go out on school nights much (often gets a coffee with friends on the way home from school but then he’s in for the evening most nights). I wouldn’t be happy with him going out regularly during the week especially if he then had to work so late.

I have a 17yo and I wouldn't be happy about coming home in the early hours of the morning.

She's been to a few parties but always stayed at her friends houses so I've not really worried about her coming in at silly o clock.

My 16 year old is supposed to be in by 10pm on school nights and tbh she's usually knackered by then anyway. Weekends & holidays she can come home later but I stay up & wait. Normally if she's at a mate's house a parent kindly brings her home. If she's elsewhere, we're lucky in that we live in London with 24 hour buses.

I've had to rescue her once when the only bus available had finished for the night and I hired a cab to go and fetch her. But so far, that was a one-off. When she starts 6th form she'll be sensible, or I hope so.

When you say school nights, do you mean actually they're out till 10 before school? Or just in the school holiday?

College nights til 10/11 and I picked up until she was driving

Week after she passed it all went a bit OTT driving about with her mates but then reined in a bit now

Weekends usually midnight unless something special - work do/mates 18th etc then a bit later

At 17 I was at uni, living independently.

A curfew is an odd notion for someone who is practically an adult. I think you red to find a more cooperative way to address your concerns.