Both me and my partner work and have a 4,5 & nearly 8 month old. I’ve always got up in the night because he “doesn’t wake up”. Anyway, my baby has been waking up more for feeds recently in the night, I walk 2 miles to get my eldest to school everyday with other kiddies in tow. For a while he was great around the house but still never helped in the night. But recently he’s not even really helping round the house unless I nag and nag which mostly I end up doing stuff myself. He doesn’t think for our family whatsoever like I do and I feel like I have the weight of everything on my shoulders. I work from home and childcare is so expensive, my 4 year old goes for 2 half days but other than that I have 2 children at home with me whilst I juggle housework, looking after them and trying to get work done, then I’m up frequently with baby. I’ve communicated this and still doesn’t get up or do the late feed before bed. He went fishing last Sunday and has said he is going tomorrow morning for a few hours. I said I’m happy with that if he does his bit but I’ve still found myself asking for the bare minimum. I’ve given him the ultimatum of I will not be with him if this continues but I know I wouldn’t be able to get him to go. He would make that as difficult as humanly possible. Sorry for the long vent I’m just at my wits end x