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[mumzyof2]

Have posted this in Chat, but didnt get much response.
You may have read that Im having a few problems with ds at the minute - midnight fits, not staying in bed, shouting, ignoring me, throwing things at our animals, but the more I keep telling him off, telling him what he should and shouldnt be doing, telling him that something hes done is wrong, I start to feel as though Im picking on him.
Dp assures me we're not, but I just seem to be going on at him all the time, and telling him off. I feel as though Im damaging him by going on and on, but I cant just ignore him when hes chucking lunch boxes at my puppy, or coming downstairs all night when hes meant to be in bed, or competely ignoring ANYTHING I say to him.
Am I the only one that has ever felt as though YOURE the bad guy? And that Im picking on him?

Oh poo what a prat, no title.

your not bullying him, just teaching him right from wrong.
As long as you praise when he does something good, and maybe not pick up on everything he does bad...sometimes ignoring some behaviour is better as he may continue it just for the attention, even if its negative attention....am i making any sense here
Pick your battles, that what my mother used to say!!
Good luck!

how old is he mumzy?

as babyinarms says, try to go more for the praise when he does something good and ignoring when he does something bad.

Like when he comes downstairs at night, just take him calmly straight back up, saying calmly, time for bed. You may have to have ALOT of patience for this, but the trick is not to react but to just calmly take him back upstairs. Eventually he'll get bored but if you shout, rant and give him a bit of excitement he'll have got the attention he's seeking.

Then, give him attention but Positive attention i.e. when he's good and stays in bed or treats the animals nicely etc....