My 21month old has been in a Daddy phase for a while now. It has got better, with him still being the fave but she has her moments she wants to be with me. This evening it has been all about Daddy and that’s fine, I’ve given them space to play. Whilst watching them play, she hit my over the head with a remote control. For some reason, it really really hurt and made me cry 🤣. Not great but I was ready to breathe and tell her no, we be gentle, all that jazz. Before I could my DH shouted at her, loudly, and moved her away from me quite firmly. She was devastated, screaming, tears, snot. Not about being away from me or what she had done, but that Daddy had shouted etc. My husband kept her at distance and told her to say sorry etc. All she wanted was to hug him. I couldn’t stop being teary (exhausted from the day and the whole thing upset me) and she wouldn’t come near me, even when I said it was ok, shall we have a cuddle, gentle voice etc etc. She fought until she could have a cuddle from my DH and she calmed down. Once calm, DH asked her calmly to say sorry to mummy and be gentle. She then tried to throw the remote at me.
I had to just leave the room cos it upset me too much.
I know there is no malice from her part (I hope) she is just learning boundaries. But it’s really upset me and it’s hard to not take it personally. She knocked over a tower she was building with my DH and when he said oh no, she said sorry daddy and stroked his face!! But I get a clobbering and nothing!
What do I do with this? Let him do bedtime and just try again tomorrow?!?