Is this all normal?!

[gloria23]

1st time mum to 13mo DS. Lately I feel a few things are hitting us hard and they all make me feel like a sh*te mum!!!!

1. TANTRUMS. He’s always been quite happy but lately he’s throwing them. Even nursery have said he’s started throwing them randomly
   is this normal at his age?!

2. sleep. Every night we have 2 hours where it’s so hard to get him back down and he won’t go asleep fully for ages.
   hard to hear others go on about their kids sleeping 7-7 and I feel like a failure because I can’t get my son to when he’s clearly wanting to sleep :(

3. nursery today said sometimes he hasn’t chewed his food he’s trying to swallow whole? She only mentioned today so I’m assuming it’s only recent as they keep me very updated with every little thing!
   but I panicked and thought what if I haven’t taught him properly
   hes had some back / near back teeth recently could this be playing into it

hes starting to stand and step and I feel like is in everything! I feel like I spend loads of my time with him moving him away from danger then he doesn’t like that and I feel guilty

i just feel shite atm I don’t know what’s normal etc

Yes, all normal.

Sleep you can probably improve by adjusting naps and how he goes down at night, but you might never get 7-7 and that's normal too.

@ChildminderMum thank you :(

just feeling a bit sensitive regarding sleep stuff as DH loves announcing it to his family constantly

and they compare DS to BIL’s child who’s 2 months younger and does sleep very long stretches and it winds me up
the way they talk about it and say “have you tried this” makes me feel like they’re looking at me like a failure and it’s my fault

We put DD down later, at around 9 or later, we've found she wakes up crazy early if we try before that.

She started tantruming at around 14/15 months and throws fits whenever she doesn't get her way.

I'm not sure how you can teach a child to chew, they kinda work it out themselves, he is probably avoiding it if his teeth are hurting right now.

You can get through this OP, it all sounds totally normal, but not much fun while it is happening.

I nearly always found that poor sleeping and grumpiness was due to over tiredness. He’ll still need a good long nap at his age.

The tantrumming is definitely normal. I think babies that sleep through just all by themselves are relatively rare tbh, either people sleep train even if it’s gentle or they find what coping strategies they can. I have no clue on the chewing thing but doesn’t sound weird if he’s teething.

@HarryBlaster we’re struggling here. So he is in nursery 4 days a week

they do a mid day nap starting from 11.30 they get the kids to wind down etc. He’ll have at least 1-1.5 hours

theyve tried to get him to have longer or even another nap but he really has always been quite a nap fighter!
I felt bad as his key worker was very apologetic but I completely understood how it’s so hard to get him to nap because he doesn’t want to miss out I think lol

but yea I think he could benefit from
longer but even the days out of nursery he’s kind of wired to their routine now

All normal

Thanks everyone

the tantrums this young really threw me I didn’t realise it could start now!

the not chewing some things also did but I have spoon fed a bit. Solid foods like curries etc but I will try to lessen it so he can get used to textures or maybe it’s just the back teeth bothering hin