9 month old gone from happy baby to whinging all the time

[Shannon9955]

My daughter is nearly 10 months old now. But since she turned 9 months she's gone from the happiest, content, phased by nothing baby to a whinger who moans in her high chair, playing, in her cot, on my bed. Anything possible she will moan at.

I don't want to say tantrums, for example if she grabs my phone and I say "ta" she will fully throw herself back and start crying. If she's had enough food and I dare offer her one more spoon full, again she will throw herself back and slam her hands down. I'm starting to worry something is wrong, she's teething but I don't think that's the cause of it all surely? Doing simple tasks is just becoming draining because she wants to be attached to me.

This morning I've had us up bright and early and ready but she's just whinged the whole time, had to attach her to me, distract her with toys just to get ready. It's now her nap time and she's gone to sleep so going out early is now off the cards because I wanted to do it before nap time. But again, everything took forever. I know that's mum life. But I really worry about her

Sounds pretty normal for 9 months, to be honest. They can't move, they can't speak but they start to realise everyone else can and it makes them angry.

As long as you're not genuinely worried about her health, just keep rolling with it. She'll cheer up.

I can’t be of much help, just to say my LO has just turned 8 months and started to do this.
I think she’s teething, but she’ll do that screaming thing if I offer more food than she wants. If I put her down to play she’ll scream and crawl to me but if I pick her up or put her on my lap she’ll scream and try to get down to the toys.

It seems so minor but it’s absolutely exhausting. I’m hoping it’s a phase!

At 9 months it's a developmental age. Huge separation anxiety. Want to do things they can't yet. Plus teeth hurting.

I think it must feel something like really bad PMT & tooth ache, plus relationship breaking down and no one listening.

I think you just have to ride the wave, try to do what you can to reassure them, provide pain relief & don't expect 'smiley'

it feels like it, but it doesn't last forever!!!

Probably teething. They can’t articulate the pain, and the whole process goes for ages so. Definitely give pain relief and ride it out

My baby is 9 months old and she can't move yet and I'm pretty sure she is teething with the top teeth, she is upset more than usual, I miss having my smiley little baby. It must be so hard for them growing and developing, thankfully they don't remember the pain when they are older.
I'm sure your baby will be back to their normal self soon enough

DS was an incredibly whingey and grumpy baby from about 9 or 10 months until he could walk and talk I’m afraid. He became very sunny again not long after mastering both of those skills. Agree with others. They are frustrated that their bodies are still mostly useless, they start to realise they are separate from you and get huge separation anxiety and, to top it off, their teeth often hurt. Hang on in there.

My first was the same. My second is 10 months and he's exactly the same now too 🤦🏼‍♀️ it lasted until he could walk

My little boy is just about to turn 9 months and seems to spend most of his day moaning atm but there is nothing wrong as the next minute he is smiling. But it is constant. Like a frustrated moan.

Hoping it passes quickly 😑😂

Oh ladies, I'm so glad I'm not alone in this. I thought she honestly hated my company😂 she's not crawling yet but she's desperately trying and I mean trying her hardest. Gets into position, but then backs out and she gets frustrated. She's been cutting 2 teeth at a time also. First the 2 bottom ones together, then the 2 top, now she's getting 2 either side of the top teeth. I just fear over giving her teething stuff incase it's not the issue. But I have been giving her ambesol. Nurofen if I know it's really giving her issues.

Really hope it's a phase also, I go back to work next month and I'm dreading her getting upset by that change

Give her painkillers and if she gets better that’s the problem

Agree with this! Likely to be a mixture of teething, development milestones. Separation anxiety, desperately wanting to learn a new skills (the crawling thing…)

@Shannon9955 I could have written your original post - I miss my happy baby! He’s become so upset and grouchy in the last few weeks - definitely teething but it’s lasting much longer! Please tell me things are better now - and when was the turning point? X

There is light at the end of the tunnel, trust me. She is now the happiest little soul. BUT, now she's one and can walk and somewhat talk she runs rings around me. The tantrums also. But it does get better. Hang on in there x

My boy has just started this and sadly it had been after ear tube placement! We have taken him to 5 doctors and they all say he is fine and just a phase. Tylenol and Motrin not helping and nothing is helping honestly….. drs don’t believe that I know my boy and he is acting in pain! Acting just like you explain crying all the time mad at everything especially when being changed or nap times and doesn’t want to lay down. I’m at a loss.

do any of yours grab their ears and shake their head? I need help! Ahhhh! I want my happy boy back

Hi @Anna223 - it’s funny you mention grabbing ears and shaking head…. My boy has been doing that for some time and I have kept putting it down to teething (which it could be, my DS is just 2 and his molars will be due in sometime soon… plus he already has 3 other teeth partially through)… but that being said, my son is also delayed with his speech so I have him booked in for a hearing test tomorrow to rule out anything from a hearing loss point of view.

of course, my son is also exhibiting other (potentially ASD) signs too (not answering to his name, not really listening…) ….

depending on how old your LO is, though, it could be that they have just discovered their ears and are enjoying the sensation of head shaking! So difficult to know when they are small

He is 9 months old! He climbs up us and all trying not to lay down for naps and also at random times and puts his head into us and shakes! Craziness! He hears really well it seems like he hears almost too well! Easily woke to things always has been! It’s so weird tho all the crying and stuff is just constant after that tube placement even worse than with the previous ear infections! I hope it passes for real!

Its natural, at this age they start to fear being alone, a completely rational and normal response