My SIL & MIL…I’m in a frustrating dynamic here and it’s sending me mad.
SIL has two kids aged 11 and 15. I have younger children. SIL’s and MIL’s lives are heavily intertwined (I live in the same village). When we are together as a family all they do is talk about SILs kids there are other grandchildren (5 to be precise). When something happens… one example 11 year old gets a detention. Apparently it’s not her fault it’s the teacher playing favourites. 15 year stops playing piano - the piano teacher is shit. 15 year old isn’t revising - it’s shit teachers at school.
15 year old games all day - it’s the dad’s fault?!
15 year old has an attitude problem it’s the dad’s fault.
These are just small examples the list goes on and on!!! It’s constant.
MIL spends her days reinforcing this with SIL. These kids will never learn and I’m fed up as we all are that SILs kids are the centre of the universe and they can’t put a foot wrong.
15 year old is now turning into a total narc! It’s pretty hard to watch.
I’m spending less time with them. But any useful tools on how to get them to see they need to see that they can’t keep blaming others.