My son is 8 goes to his dads house on Saturday after noons for 5 hours. This has been for the last year or so. But his dad is a dosser and makes absolutely no effort with the time he has with his son. For instance.
he lives in a bed sit so they sit in one room the whole time and do nothing and go nowhere. My son plays his switch and he watches football. He barely even talks to him, so my son says but I can quite believe it.
he works full time and has never paid a penny in child maintenance so it's not as if he can't afford to take him anywhere.
he dosnt feed him, my son kept coming home hungry so I started sending him with a packed lunch.
my son once asked me to buy him a drink from the shop on the way because his dad dosnt have cups, and last time he had to drink out of his hands 🫠 WTF?
today my son had been there 20 minutes and sent me a voice note saying he wanted to come home soon, his dad said nothing despite hearing him send it to me, and hearing my reply asking if he really meant that, and not to joke about it, because he'd be upset if I really came to get him. Surely you'd ask your child if they were ok if they said that 20 minutes after arriving. Would he have even cared if I'd come to pick him up?
He's just lazy. Once he came home I asked what they'd been up to and he said. I played the Xbox and my dad went to sleep 😳 I said something that time because that's not on at all.
I try to keep it civil and only speak up if there's a safety issue, I.e sleeping while he's there. But his bone idle laziness is unreal.
im not saying he should be taking him somewhere every week but in a year and half he's taken him to the park once. He's got the personality of a wet sponge so it's hardly surprising but I just feel for my son. He always looks so disappointed when he comes home.
before he goes he's so happy, and when he comes home he's always so down. I just wish he'd see what a lovely kid he has and want to make him smile.