Struggling With a 7mo

[Missdee123]

Can PND kick in after 7months!?

I have a 7mo daughter and I love her more than anything but the past few weeks I've felt like I just hate being a mother. I feel so lazy and don't want to do anything with her, the thought of having to do something such as play/bath her/take her out makes me want to cry. And when she fights me at nap/bed time i end up crying with frustration. I have spoken to my partner but he just doesn't understand.

Is this just a phase? Am I wrong for feeling this way? Could it be/does it sound like PND?

Any advice would be appreciated and please no judgement 🤍

I have an 8 month DS and feel the same way often! It can be so frustrating sometimes especially when both sleep deprived!
Remember how much you love them and they need you. It's ok to miss the life you had before them and the ease of it all, but it will get easier when DC gets older and is less dependent :)
If you're worried about PND, speak to your health visitor.
Sending love x

Its also worth going to the GP for an MOT. Low thyroid, low iron, low B12, low D can all cause exhaustion and low mood. How much sleep are you getting? If you are getting up in the night, maybe see if you can leave the LO for a weekend and go and stay with a friend/family/hotel and just sleep and relax

It's a hard age as they do want engagement etc.

I found myself in abit of a rut around then and to shake myself out of it, I planned things.
So whilst I couldn't be arsed to go for a walk or to the park, I made myself.
And you know what, in the end it made me feel so much better.
4 years down the line and I make sure we get out daily.

Could you plan a walk out during a nap time so she can drift off in the pram? Grab yourself a coffee, find a seat, pod cast etc.

Do you have any groups or soft plays?

Any family around to help?

Also,

What's her sleep schedule?

It could be parental burnout too... 7 months (onwards....) is a hard age, you have so little time to yourself and babies that age start to become so demanding. It's a good time to start plotting your return to work, even part time, just to have a little adult time.

No one had mentioned yet, but PND can appear after a year