How much help do you give your 6 year old getting ready for school

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If you have a year 2, 6 year old, how much do you help them get ready for school in the mornings?

I let mine get her uniform out and get dressed. I do her top button on her shirt as it's fiddly and she struggles.

I brush her teeth for over a minute and then let her finish them until the timer finishes. Sometimes I wash her face but generally she can do it herself.

She gets her own shoes and coat on.

I know all children are different. But just after other peoples experiences to gage against mine.

Thank you

No physical help but almost constant checking/popping in to make sure he isn't instantly distracted!

My three and five year olds both get themselves dressed but i get the main bits of their uniform out the day before, then me or DH do teeth and hair. Sometimes three year old needs help with a top button and or his socks. If we are running late I'll help them both as they faff!

I do her hair and remind her of all the steps, but she does them by herself, usually without arguing!

Same as you OP

My DS is has autism so I have to constantly get him dressed prompt him to brush his teeth etc.
My DD almost 4 I also have to get her dressed and prompt her to brush her teeth although at times she will get herself dressed but very rare.

DS has just turned 7. He can get himself dressed fine, but if we’re in a rush I will help because he gets distracted and takes forever. I tend to prompt him through all the steps, and I get his clothes out for him. He does have SEN though, although he’s in mainstream school etc.

I'm surprised you do their teeth for them- I got a kids electric toothbrush for my 5 year old and he seems quite capable of cleaning them himself (but first dentist check up this weekend so guess I'll know more then!)

This.

Are you dressed? Put the pokemon down and get dressed...no leave the dinosaur game until later and get dressed.... Yes I do want to hear your new song but after you're dressed.. leave your brother alone, he's getting dressed, so can you please go and get dressed....

He can do it all he's just really easily distracted.

My dentist recommended brushing kids teeth up to around 7 to make sure they are done properly. Obviously they can have a go first but then do a final brush for Any missed bits.

Same. We let them do their own teeth in the morning and we do them at night

Mostly I give a lot of chivvying reminders to stop DCs getting sidetracked! My job is definitely at risk of being replaced with technology 😂
In terms of practical help, very little: she gets herself up, opens curtains, on the loo, dressed and teeth brushed for 2 mins. I then give her teeth a once over. Then she goes downstairs and makes herself toast and/or cereal for breakfast, and puts her book and reading diary back in her bag. I put her snack in her bag and fill her water bottle whilst she eats to save time (she's obviously capable of doing this herself if needed), and I do her hair. Once they've eaten, they put on their coats and shoes, sling on bags, and we leave for school.
The 6yo is pretty independent and actually much better at both keeping on track and remembering what needs to be done than my 8yo. The 8yo does everything the 6yo does, but I have to check up on and stand over the 8yo far more.

Sounds about the same as my Y1 child although I do lay his clothes on the bed. He sometimes struggles with the top button too.

Yes to the distractions and prompts 😆
Thank you all

I should add, I purposefully set up their wardrobes, cutlery cupboard, and anything else they need to get to up so they can all be accessed independently. If you have high-up hanging rails in your wardrobes etc, I can see why it would be necessary to lay out clothes for them.

Mine are 5 and 7 and I get their clothes for them in the morning and make sure their bag is packed, but generally don’t help them get dressed or coats or shoes or actually getting out.

This is KEY though if you ask me - before the little one started school, getting out the door was a massive battle. Little one started and I realised - before then, my eldest was the only one going out all day. Husband working from home, me and the little ones home all day. Must have been horrid you’re the only one being sent out all day. Once his brother started going with him to school every day, getting out the door because really easy.

Similar (6yo in Year 1). She gets dressed and I help with any back buttons and sometimes socks/tights if they’re tricky to get on. I do her hair because we always plait it to avoid nits. Teeth is a mix because my SiL let her nephew do his own teeth and they were horrendous by the time he was a teen so I usually do it or do the first minute and she does the rest. Sometimes she does her own but no more than once a day. Does her own coat and shoes.

I make his toast, I suppose he could do that himself but it woild take a lot longer and create a lot of mess that I can do without on a school day!

Other than that it's just prompting, reminding, checking he looks smart (jumper may he backwards, collar sorted etc) and that he has what he needs eg trainers for PE, whatever.

Its mostly prompting, reminding and breaking up sibling fights

I have to still dress my Y2 seven year old. He is a NIGHTMARE for finding distractions! He has to take seven steps to the bathroom from his room and he will always find something utterly fascinating along the way. The dog, the window, a spider, the stair gate, oh he's the Bain of my life and hurrying him along ignites the stubbornness in him.

So I play along, doing bits of the dressing, making him do bits while I do "jobs" in his room ... he is so laid back though. I'd have to put him in a white room with nothing to get him to stop daydreaming.

His sister is nothing like this.

It's not that he can't, it's that he takes so long. On weekends he dresses himself when there is less at stake. I can't take ringing the door bell at school again because he's decided to roll around with the dog for ten minutes.

He is improving but we're not out of the woods yet!

7.5 and 5 year old. 7 year old does it all by himself with lots of shouting to hurry up etc as he’s easily distracted.

5 year old I get clothes out and she puts them on herself. I do her hair.

I’m sure she is capable of getting her own school clothes out as she dresses independently on a weekend, but it’s less of a fight over leggings v skirt/ jumper v cardigan/ random sparkly non uniform item if I just do it.

Mostly just telling him to get bloody on with it.

Oh and I pack their school bags, water bottles and snacks etc. Fortunately they have school dinners so don’t need to worry about that.

I have started trying to get them to do it themselves by reminding them, but I feel that at 7 and 5 it’s still my responsibility to make sure they have what they need.

My just turned 5yr old gets his uniform out, dresses himself, brushes his teeth and washes his face, coat and shoes on.

I sometimes assist with teeth, and top button

I do her hair, that’s it.