Broodiness is taking over my life!

[lucyandme89]

Has anybody been in this situation before?

I have 2 wonderful children already, a boy and girl, love them both so much and the plan was for my second baby to be my last (shes 2 now). For the past year all I've thought about is if I'll have another, and how sad it would be if I didn't. I constantly hope I might accidentally fall pregnant which is nuts and always feel a little disappointed when my period comes.

My partner has expressed to me a couple of times without me mentioning it that it would maybe be nice to have a third in a few years time (we are in our late 20s) but realistically I don't know if this would happen due to finances and I don't want to take away from the two we already have.

I honestly feel like a crazy lady, I must think about babies and pregnancy almost daily. I constantly look back through photos from pregnancy and the early days.

Has anybody been here and does it go away? I so wish it would!

I’m sort of in that situation, except DH doesn’t want another.

I know there’s lots of sensible, practical reasons not to have any more (mainly money and house size), but the broodieness is overwhelming. I think about it daily, get miserable every time my period arrives and day dream about somehow ending up with baby number 3.

It drives me crazy but DH has made his mind up so I’m trying to learn to accept it, and focus on the two that I’ve got.

I'm in a similar position except that I'm a lot older than you, I'm 38. My 2nd dc is nearly 2 and I'm desperate for another however we can't financially afford a 3rd right now and due to previous fertility issues I would have to start trying now to have a chance of a successful pregnancy. Plus my husband isn't overly keen on a 3rd as it will mean another 4 years of nursery fees.

I'm trying to focus on my two lovely kids and looking forward to getting my career back on track.

@lucyandme89 I know how you feel. I’m 37 and single and have a wonderful 1.5 year old who I love with all my heart.
I constantly think about having another baby, it consumes my mind, especially in the evening when my baby is asleep.
I feel that everyone around me, friend, celebrities etc are pregnant. I am also looking back at old pics of when I was pregnant all the time.

I know this is no help to you but want you to know you’re not alone with your thoughts and you’re honestly not a crazy lady xx

Just ask if he wants to have another?

I dont know if it goes away.... but I hear ya! I have a 6 yr old dd, Ive wanted another since she was born. Sadly my OH doesn't want any more children and this did at first take a toll on our relationship. We're ok now but he knows that even now I still struggle with the fact that we'll not have another. I get jealous over pregnancy annoucements, dont get me wrong im happy for that person but inside im screaming why cant that be me. Somedays are better then others but I still have days that I cant hold it and will cry. I also hope in time I learn to deal with it better....

We had my first when I was 20yrs old, with the plan to have kids young and enjoy traveling when they were older. Now we have a 10 + 7yr old. But now all my husband's friends are in their 30's and pregnancy announcements are popping up, my friends are talking about starting to have their babies over the next 5yrs with us being 30 now. My little brother who is now 26 has just had his first baby, my auntie has just told me that she is expecting her first, my husband's sister is trying. You get the idea. We ummmed and ahhhed about a third and now DH has brought the subject up a few times over the last year. We've still got years we will see. Doesn't help with everyone having bloody babies though.