Still so unsettled 6months

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My baby started being very unsettled at 2 wks

GPS / HV just tell me it's normal and she will outgrow it / nothings wrong

I'm sure they think I'm an anxious first time parent ( I suppose I am 🤣) and I know I shouldn't compare but every baby group I go to I get looks and comments of ' is she ok?' And ' oh bless her real tears '

Other babies look so chilled

My baby will cry a lot every day

We haven't turned the corner

I feel like I keep waiting and waiting but she's just so miserable and I feel so helpless

She's quite sicky but not projectile and there's no pattern - it can be a lot to hardly any from one day to the next

She cries and gets frustrated a lot of the day
She grizzles a lot

She just doesn't seem content !

It's really getting me down and I feel im
Not enjoying my mat leave and feel anxious and ok tender hooks
Even when she doesn't cry / winds ( can be for a whole morning ) I feel im always wishing for the next cry

Her sleep is not the best and she tosses and turns a lot in the night and wakes up a lot

Since moving to her own room it's better but still Im up a lot

We are on aptamil pepti 1 but it's made no difference and DR and GP HV won't do anything else for us - no other milks to trail but surely her being so I settled isn't right?

I have a great supporting husband but no other support so it's just us
He works and does all he can when he is here
He's fantastic

But we are both exhausted and I actually feel broken

My DR even offered me antidepressants on one of the many times I called when baby was crying....I didn't think it was PND but the more this goes on maybe I am depressed

Who wouldn't be dealing with a non sleeping, grizzly/cryey baby for a lot of hours a day?

Where do I go from here ? X

You have my sympathy. I’m sure someone else will be able to advise on the milk choice (we BF). All I can say is DS was an extremely unsettled, fussy, none sleeping, high needs baby. We never found anything ‘medical’ to explain it. He became an absolute delight when he could walk and talk, so between about 1 and 18 months. He’s still quite demanding and in need of adult regulation at age 3. But so happy and a joy to be around, who sleeps really well. We night weaned and did some sleep training at about 9 months. I can’t say it did anything for his personality but sleeping through the night meant I could cope much more. I hope things get better for you - my DS never really crawled so if your DD does I’m sure that’ll make a big difference.

Some positives ( it's not all negative)

She goes to bed lovely, after a bath/bottle/bed but it's usually lots of tears as I dress her for bed and she really really cries and the evenings are always stressful

Don't think she's over tired - her wake windows are 1.5 hrs - she doesn't seem to be able to be awake more than this which hasn't changed since newborn but I feel I have that under control so roughly 4 naps a day totalling approx 2-3 hours and at night around 10-11 hrs

Down for 6pm, up for 4:30-5:50 sometimes 6pm with a few times having to re settle

Started weaning and she loves it, has slightly gone off her bottles though x