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Dread baby waking up

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Bubblemonkey · 02/02/2023 09:18

I am so drained.
My husbands useless & is more interested in his bastarding hobbies.
Ive done every single night feed in almost 8 months (formula) because the prick doesn’t wake up 🤨
Baby needs entertaining every waking minute or she screams. She barely naps & even when she does, it’s about an hour a day, clung to me, put her down & she kicks off.
I seriously dread when she wakes up for the day, I’m at a loss as to how to entertain her all day long.
Someone please give me wise words, or at least tell me it gets better?! 😞

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VintageThoughts · 02/02/2023 09:20

My DS was like this. Never napped for more than half an hour. Had to be attached to me or be cried. Would t go to sleep at night, woke at 5am every day.

It. Will. Pass.

I promise!! In the meantime, I used to put mine in his buggy and walk for miles. It was the only time he was happy! It really helped with my mental health too.

Lovemusic33 · 02/02/2023 09:25

I still remember these days well. Dd1 was like this and DH(now ex) would just sleep through everything or refuse to get up. I used to dread night time as I knew I would be up half the night with dd, the day times were a little better but I was exhausted. Dd didn’t like travelling in the car or the pushchair so I often felt isolated at home.
Things do get better but it feels like a life time when it’s happening. Dd1 didn’t sleep through until she started school but dh did start helping more when she hit toddler stage and we ended up co sleeping for a while.

If your dc likes it in the pushchair I would suggest walking as much as you can, visiting parks, feeding ducks etc.., just getting out and about during the day, fresh air and taking in new things may help aid sleep.

Batbatbatty · 02/02/2023 09:25

Honestly, since your baby is bottle fed and also not tiny anymore, I would pick a weekend day, get yourself ready, wait for your OH to get up and then leave for the day.

Leave instructions for bottle prep/timings and nap timings/instructions (ha!) if he's that useless.

Give your mental health a break and let him take care of his child.

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Batbatbatty · 02/02/2023 09:26

(sorry I realise this doesn't help with the night feeding problem)

DragonbornMum · 02/02/2023 12:21

Poor baby - she still so little and all she wants is Mummy

For us the turning point was really 9 months - he started sleeping longer than 30 minutes at a time and that really changed my life. It does get easier as they get more aware. Don't get me wrong: my boy HAS to be in the same room as me, but he doesn't demand all my attention anymore: as long as I'm there it's enough sometimes

It will get better. I promise.

RunningOnHope · 02/02/2023 13:27

It gets better. Mine is now 20 months and the difference between baby and toddler is huge. I know some people struggle with toddlers wanting to be independent, but since she's been able to walk it's been so much easier - you can put her down, she can play independently, she can get places so less whiney and clingy.

Things felt easier from 9 months, but much easier from about 15 months here.

Seasonofthewitch83 · 02/02/2023 14:16

It was like this for me even with a helpful DH. I would count down the time to the next nap because at least it meant laying down doing nothing for half an hour!

IT GETS BETTER!

OuiLaLa · 02/02/2023 14:22

Oh OP - I’m sorry, I had my fair share of husband troubles with my first. But he is not the most important person here, your lovely DD is, and you are too.

I have felt like this st times with both my babies. You are so close to when it gets better! i think you can help things by making a bit of a plan for your days.

keep pushing on with pram, car seat, sling etc. anything to get yourself some breathing space where you have two hands. Do you have family/friends you can meet up with who will hold baby for a bit? Can you go tk some mum and baby groups for support?

stargirl1701 · 02/02/2023 14:22

You need to head away for the weekend and leave him to it.

PinkSyCo · 02/02/2023 14:24

It won’t be long until your baby is sleeping through the night and that will make things seem much much better. Do you get out with her much? Maybe wrapping her up and taking her to the swings will help with her sleep and break up the day for you. On another note it’s not fair if your DH’s life has hardly changed since you became parents. He needs to do more with her to give you a break, and this will also help with her clinginess towards you.

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