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Babies who cry and cry, Please tell me they don't end up miserable sods!

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Martha200 · 07/02/2008 09:50

OMG, am feeling sooo worn out.

DS2, (3 weeks) is such a crier. Keep telling myself it's not personal, but if he is not feeding (which feels constant!) then it's the need to being held a lot (should sort a sling out I know) but I do wonder at times if he will turn out to be a right miserable so and so in the long run. He is SO different to my first child who was laid back and pretty 'easy' in comparison (even at this age.)

Most of the time am dealing with the crying in a better fashion to how I feel now, but right now soo worn out and worried he will turn out to be downright miserable because of all this crying.. sounds silly I know

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JamesAndTheGiantBanana · 07/02/2008 09:57

Maybe he's not feeling too good after the birth, sometimes a cranial osteopath can make them feel more comfortable if they've got squished on the way out. A lot of people have used them on MN and say they are fantastic.

Are you sure it's not colic?

I don't think their first reactions as a baby say much about their permanent adult personality really, right now they're just a little scrunched up ball of needs and wants, missing their dark soft quiet home. Bound to be a bit upsetting for some babies.

Bet you are knackered though, keep cry-sis.org.uk in mind for if it gets worse.

Tutter · 07/02/2008 09:58

both of my dsses were miserable tiny babies

they are now 2.8yo and 6mo

both very happy boys now am pleased to report

TheFallenMadonna · 07/02/2008 10:01

No. Ds cried for, well I won't say because it might depress you , but he is now 6 and really lovely. Solemn, a little old man in many ways, but not miserable at all.

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Piggy · 07/02/2008 10:04

Both my dses cried a lot when they were babies. They are now happy smiley funny giggly lovely boys aged 2 and 3.

Holy sh*t Tuuter - your ds2 is 6 months old already?

PortAndLemon · 07/02/2008 10:04

DS was definitely a crier. Now (aged 3) he's a very happy little soul, although still "spirited".

RubberDuck · 07/02/2008 10:05

My ds2 had colic - was a miserable first few months. He is now the sunniest and sociable individual I've ever known now (he's 3.5)

schneebly · 07/02/2008 10:05

My DS2 cried a LOT compared to DS1 - especially if DH went near him lol. Now he is a jolly little 3 year old - has a bit of a temper on him but think most kids that age have at times! On the whole though he is a happy go lucky child.

EffiePerine · 07/02/2008 10:07

DS cried a LOT when little (coicky baby). He is now a cheerfu; toddler most of time time

annoyingdevil · 07/02/2008 14:37

No, no and no. DD cried for 4 mths (colic) and is now the happiest toddler you could imagine (odd tantrum of course)

Karoleann · 07/02/2008 15:02

For his first 4 months DS was either feeding, asleep (thank god) or crying (especially when he saw me.) Most of the time he's such a sweetie now

sandyballs · 07/02/2008 15:06

My girls (twins) were very different when they were tiny, one very chilled and smiley and easy going, would beam at anyone who peered in the buggy. Her sister had an almost constant frown, very serious and would cry at anyone who peered in the buggy. They still have exactly the same characters at almost 7.

MrsTittleMouse · 07/02/2008 19:42

DD was a very demanding newborn - wouldn't sleep, needed constant entertaining, cried all the time - I was a wreck.
She is now a cheerful lively toddler who sleeps like a dream.

ballbaby · 07/02/2008 19:50

I worried about this too with ds1 who must've cried for 6 hours a day! He was better when i got him in a routine but still a grumpy baby. Now he's a sensitive but intelligent, funny and very happy little 5 year old. I've heard the big criers have the bigger IQ's (makes you feel better even if not true!).

Feel for you though - it's extremely hard work in the early days with a big crier. Would recommend a routine for your sanity.

A friend of mine (who's had 6 now ) said i always picked him up too quickly - sometimes they're just tired and you can't do anything to help them (i.e. if they're fed, watered, changed, loved etc).

ALMummy · 07/02/2008 19:53

My DD exactly the same as yours MrsTittleMouse.

I never left my kids to cry, always picked them up immediately and they have both turned out really easygoing and great at entertaining themselves. As though they have an ingrained knowledge that if they want me I will be there. Not moany kids at all.

Wisteria · 07/02/2008 19:55

DD2 - seemed to cry more than feed and that was an achievement considering I rarely bothered getting dressed on my top half

She is the most happy, contented individual and she has never had a tantrum.......in fact if anything she is a very old soul and extremely wise....don't worry..

On the other hand dd1 didn't cry at all (honestly) and is far more easily upset nowadays at 14.

quickdrawmcgraw · 07/02/2008 19:57

I had a real cryer in dd and now she's the happiest thing ever. ds was easy going and didn't cry unless he was in pain. He's a terrible cry baby now.

monkeytrousers · 07/02/2008 20:01

DS had colic and cried almost solidly for the first 12 weeks. He's a sweetie now!

EachPeachPearMum · 07/02/2008 20:10

Dd was like this- a complete grump until she was about 10 mo... she just gets happier and happier. 6-14 weeks was the worst- the absolute pits...

I think she hated being a baby, but loves it now she can move and communicate more. Hope things improve...just keep thinking 'this too will pass' and 'its just a phase' - I promise, it is.

ib · 07/02/2008 20:14

Ds had reflux - cried non stop for the first 5 months.

We were on the tube in London the other day and he was being so sunny and happy that someone asked us if he had been born smiling!

If only they knew....

nowwearefour · 07/02/2008 20:17

i posted a thread on this just last week. my dd2 is now 8 months old. 8 monhts of hell i'm afraid, it is so much worse with an older one to look after too. but somehow with lots of support and shoulders to cry on i am managing to get through it. you will too. those first few weeks with all that feeding are just soooo hard so just be gentle with yourself and get as much help as you possibly can with everything. try to get people to take your newborn as people always volunteer to take the older one in my experience but what you really want is time with them or sleep!!!

MandMand · 08/02/2008 14:09

My DS was a miserable baby too, but he started to be so much more content once he could roll around and sit up by himself. He's now 18 months and a totally different character, really happy and confident and outgoing.

I've noticed that some of my friends who had "easy" happy babies are now struggling with more stroppy wilful toddlers, whereas my DS seems calmer and easier in comparison. So hang in there, it will get better!

missorinoco · 08/02/2008 14:11

i think karoleann and i had the same ds. either cried, slept or fed for the first few months.

now mainly giggles, babbles and burps.

it gets better.

annoyingdevil · 08/02/2008 22:07

I personally believe that those of us that had really difficult babies, find toddlerhood relatively easy. No amount of toddler tantrums can compare to the hell that is a colicky or reflux baby

wellieboot · 08/02/2008 22:19

Oh soooo feel for you, I was in your shoes 13 months ago but with my first. Mine cried nonstop from the minute she entered the world until about 14 weeks and was generally miserable until she crawled at 7.5 months. Now she is walking she is a delight and does not stop smiling, laughing and generally is brilliant and I'm so proud of her! It will get better I promise (what everyone used to say to me and I didn't believe it!)

Make sure you try and get some time away, even an hour a day will keep you sane

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