Hi all,
I'm literally at the end of my thether and ready to walk out. I have three boys, aged 5,3 and 2. Their behaviour is diabolical.
They fight each other constantly and only stop when they hurt each other. They smash anything and everything that can be broken. We just moved house and the walls are already damaged where they have repeatedly hit the walls with toys. We installed stairgates to stop them running up and down the stairs and getting into the kitchen which they have ripped down and damaged the doorframes so have to fix before putting a new one up. They will purposely soil themselves or the carpet.
They think it's all funny. I've had enough, and my usual support from husbands parents has dwindled because they simply cannot deal with the kids behaviour.
Have tried speaking to health visitors and nursery nurse who had the audacity to say that I didn't love them enough and I need to spend more time with them. I spend all my time with them, I don't work, don't have any hobbies, don't go out by myself. I never have a break. I've stopped drinking any liquids or eating during the day so I don't have to go to the toilet and leave them unsupervised.
I have a neurological condition which I'm supposed to take painkillers for- I can't because they make me drowsy and I can't have the kids running around at night when I'm asleep.
I cannot take them out anywhere as they just try to run into roads and hit peoples cars. If I try driving with them in the car they all scream, have lost count of the number of times I've had to pull over because I've almost crashed.
Spoken to school and preschool who say kids are doing great and behaviour is fine.
Not sure what else I can do.
I'm exhausted, I hardly sleep because they refuse to sleep until they literally pass out after midnight and then they each repeatedly wake up screaming and slamming doors during the night. Getting them ready for school in the morning is hell.
Husband works long shifts so hardly home. No other support.
Tried reward charts, they loose interest. And they end up breaking their reward anyway.
Confiscating toys has no affect either.
They won't listen to anyone when they are told to calm down or to stop doing things that are dangerous or naughty. They have a meltdown if they ask for tv or toys and I say no, even after ive explained that if their behaviour improves they can have it back.
My three year old had a serious burns accident a year ago and since then I've been very wary of them stepping foot in the kitchen but they still try to come in when I'm cooking. They just won't listen to me at all.
Feel completely at a loss on what to do. I've asked for help from people I thought could give advice and basically told that I'm a crap mum.