Dna testing, already done one but requesting another

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Hiya, bit of a rant and some advice if possible.

I am seeking legal advice but I'm having to wait a week for the appointment.

3 Year ago I had a one night stand with "male". 2 months later I had got in a relationship with someone else and fell pregnant pretty fast. "Male" found out and wasn't happy he kept trying to state he was the biological father even though it wasn't possible. I had told him numerous times he wasn't the father and that he needs to leave me alone. Which is what I thought he had done.
Fast forward 3 years, I received a solicitor letter stating he wanted mediation to put a child arrangement order in place. I received legal advice and they instructed I go to the meeting and request a dna test to be done on my expense. I didn't mind paying as I thought it would come back that he isn't the father and he will leave me alone. We received the results and he is excluded and DD biological father. I'm thinking great this has been put to bed and he can leave us alone, we also tested Biological father aswel so he could see. Obviously came back that biological father what her dad.
I've recently received a solicitor letter stating that "male" doesn't believe in the integrity of the test as I didn't pay for the court approved I couldn't afford £500+ for the test so did the £100+ one as we already knew the results.
My question is after receiving the solicitor letter is it down to me to pay for the court approved test which he is requesting or is it down to him?
I have no issue doing another dna test as we already know the results but "male" is convinced that the dna samples got mixed up... I did order the test from an approved dna laboratory. What are your thoughts on this? Any advice would be appreciated
Thank you

If it’s true that the test you did is not legally admissible in court then he should pay for it if he wants another 500 pound test. And then I would ask he never contacts you again - put it in writing. And report him for harassment if he makes contact after that.
Honestly OP, I’d get some legal advice to make sure this goes away. He sounds deranged.

Sorry, I just reread your OP. Definitely a good idea to get that legal advice - do ask about harassment laws and how to ensure he leaves you alone long term.

If he wants a DNA test he needs to pay... simple as that. A solicitor will write what their client wants and you can simply say you have no issue but will not be picking up the costs attached. If you can seek legal support first I would do that

I just feel like the pressure being put on me for no reason at all. Thank you everyone I'm currently waiting for my appointment to be able to get some legal advice

Your solicitor should have answered these questions. Did they even help at all?

Feels like my 2 year (2 years 8 months to be exact) hates me all of a sudden. I went away for a weekend, first time I’ve ever gone away overnight, and since I got back he’s done a complete 180 and his attachment to daddy (and not me) has been a little alarming. He can’t let dad out of his sight and even if he walks 5 metres away he breaks down and has a tantrum. He needs about 300 cuddles a day from dad. If dad ever pays attention to our baby, he loses it. Dad can’t make any calls or even go to toilet alone. Meanwhile 2 year old wants nothing to do with me: doesn’t speak to me all day, doesn’t let me change him, doesn’t let me attend to him in the night, doesn’t let me cuddle him… it almost feels uncomfortable in those brief moments alone before he’s realised dad has left the room and he needs to chase after him.

He’s mostly always been a mummy’s boy, dad has often travelled for work in the past and even though dad does his bedtime, he usually said he wanted mummy, until now. All I hear all day now is “I don’t want mummy I just want daddy”

I don’t mind a daddy phase (if that’s what it is) l and I’ll continue to love him either way, but it seems so extreme, and it’s just not practical. Dads finding it difficult too because he can’t get anything else done.

Not a family lawyer, but:-
-he doesn’t have parental responsibility, he would have to apply to the court to get it,

• you’ve done a DNA test already.

Hopefully your solicitor advises you to tell him to fuck off, in legal words of course. This feels like harassment and why should you jump through hoops for this person. Even more ridiculous is the suggestion you should pay £500 to keep him happy.