I am a mum of 3 my mother-in-law is driving me mad with her interfering and undermining my parenting I lost my shit today after ignoring a lot of what she does now I don’t know what to do. Yesterday my middle child was an absolute horror when I collected her from school calling another kid names fighting with her sister over a lip balm as soon as we got in the door she was arguing with her older sister again so I told her she could have time out in her room on her own she rang grandma on her iPad within ten mins she’s at our front door with Barney bear cakes for her I let it slide but mentioned it to my hubby when he got in said it’s not right as she’ll just think every time she plays up grandma will give her cake mean old mummy telling her off like I’m the bad guy all the time anyway today grandma turns up twenty past eight to pick my girls up for school it is not her days to take them lovely middle child has again called her on her iPad. I was cross so bought up about day before she then told me well I won’t have the kids atall then. We’re in a really hard situation as mil has them two days a week doing school run whilst I’m at work so we depend on her to help with childcare but she keeps trying to rule the roost I am currently looking for another job as she is constantly using this against me. I’ve had enough my parents live abroad so we have no other support network. I just feel that my kids are starting to see me as bad cop and it’s so horrible as hey if I tell them off for anything it’s we’ll go live with grandma then, especially my middle child it’s really upset me. We always dutifully traipse up there Christmas as we’ll never be allowed an Xmas at home so I’ll never have those memories with my children just to keep the peace we have invited her to ours but no she just likes to control everything just looking for coping tips I suppose am I being unreasonable?