Getting 1 year old to sleep without cuddling

[pilaod]

Hi
My one year old has always been cuddled to sleep. This is my biggest regret! I'm trying to break the habit but she just cries for ages when I put her down sleepy and awake.
Has anyone had this problem? Any tips? Wet difficult

I cuddle mine, then put her in her cot, Pat and shush her if she gets annoyed about being put down. I know it is easier said than done.

Why is it a regret?

Comforting your child to sleep?

For how long? Ten minutes, enjoy it and remember when she's 15 and won't hug you. 2 hours, wean her off.

Yip, DD only just starting to go to sleep without being cuddled, she's 4. I felt like it was a regret and something I needed to stop but i've now realised how quickly that 4 years have gone and will be doing the same with no 2! I know it can be hard but it does pass, try to enjoy it and remember they do eventually just grow out of it.

Following for advice, although for me it’s an eight year old!

Why is it your biggest regret @pilaod? Does she go to sleep easily when cuddled? We had a bit of a tough patch when DS hit 1ish and I felt like I was trying to get a 4 month old to sleep again 😬😅

We still cuddle DS to sleep and he’s almost 2.5 🤷🏻‍♀️ Teeth brushed, into his room, cuddle in his chair and read a book then he cuddled in properly and is asleep in 5 mins 🤷🏻‍♀️ I then spend 20 mins enjoying his cuddles while mindlessly scrolling my phone then come out and tell DH that he took a while to settle 🤣🤣

With my oldest when she was 4 ish. We talked a bit about what would happen first and then after bedtime routine, we would leave for 5 mins to ‘do jobs’, always return after 5 mins, a couple of weeks later up it to 10 mins, then 15 min etc and tell them
to try and sleep but you will always come back and check on them. It worked for us.

Cuddle a little less close each day over a couple of weeks until they go to sleep just touching your hand or whatever. Then risk moving the hand earlier and earlier. Then try next to them but not touching. Then further away.

@Sucessinthenewyear thank you, we have been successful with that method on occasion but it never lasts long term and she gets to the point where she’s still awake at 11pm and she gets overtired and irrationally upset, whereas if we cuddle her to sleep it takes 10 mins max and she’s peacefully asleep. We’ll keep trying though. I’m sure she’ll grow out of it, one day!

Look at teaching her how to relax her body. Their are guided methods on YouTube.

DS2 was like this, then he changed bedrooms and he just rolled over and went to sleep, bonkers.

That's so sad that being your baby's safe place is your biggest regret!

As a mum of a teenager who now won't cuddle at all - don't regret cuddling your baby. Enjoy the closeness. Quick as a flash the cuddle times will be gone.

I cuddled mine to sleep until he was at least 6. He's 20 now and I can assure you it has caused no damage why do you want to stop? You'll never get that chance again after a certain age

Your DD will take so much comfort from being cuddled to sleep by the person she feels safest with. That's so sad that it's your biggest regret.

DS is 3.5 and that 20 minutes at the end of each day where we read a story and he falls asleep in my arms is still the best part of every day.

One day you'll see how quickly all this cuddle time went. Don't regret being a good mum. Your baby loves it!

Gosh I could never imagine calling comforting my child as a habit or a regret 😕 what a strange outlook

shes 1 year old. She wants your comfort OP. Honestly, one day she won’t want you to hug her and you’ll wish for these days. Just comfort your baby, all you have to do is give her a cuddle.

It’s ok to regret something that you think is disrupting your child’s sleep and it’s unfair to OP to imply she can only be a good mother if she continues this way.
A happy child falling asleep feeling safe and loved is the aim, and there’s more than one way to achieve it.