Problem waking up during the night when baby cries

[anniz91]

Hi

I recently gave birth and now have my first child.

I have been woken up by my husband during the night as baby cries for his food. I am now very scared to fall asleep as I don't seem to be hearing him cry when I fall asleep at night.

Has this happened to anyone and how do you deal with it?

Where does the baby sleep?

I mean if you're not breastfeeding presumably your husband can feed the baby? If you are, husband can wake you?

How recently did you give birth? Could it be you are just absolutely exhausted?

It happened to me a couple of times from what I can remember. One time baby wasn't crying but my husband woke up to baby actively having a very loud poonami event in his next to me. I slept through it, but I was in the middle of the 4 month sleep regression and up every hour. I think I was just so exhausted. DH also woke me up another time from memory and tbh I don't see the harm as long as baby is seen to. Also how do you know you wouldn't have woken 10-20 seconds later?

My guess would be you are exhausted.

Sometimes you are so exhausted you don't wake! You already have a solution- your partner steps in, or wakes you if you are needed. You are recovering from childbirth and need some rest!

I had this. I am a very heavy sleeper and just really struggled to hear her in the night. My husband often woke me to feed her. For the first few weeks we were on a feeding regime and I had to set an alarm to wake up to pump and I managed with the alarm but not the screaming baby next to me.

It was really tough and I felt horrendously guilty. I don't really have any answers as I don't know how to make myelf sleep any differently. I've had it all my life being difficult to wake since I was a child and my first sleepovers at about 7.

I never woke either, my then husband woke me if she cried. Thankfully, she was a great sleeper, so it wasn't a frequent issue and once she was old enough, I told her to just come and get me if she needed to.