Is this doable?

[Claiih]

DS turned 1 in December. I want a nice gap, not too big not too small. I did initially think 3 years

but recently have thought maybe coming off my pill in September. Just as I may not be lucky and get pregnancy instantly! If it takes 6 months DS would be 3/about to turn 3 etc, it’s not guaranteed I’d get pregnant September but then if I did the age gal would be around 2.5 years which is still lovely

we do have 2 dogs! Which add to the day and do make things a bit harder. And I feel so bad and the thought of having another young child makes me feel bad for them
but then they have adapted amazing to DS and love him

Im just worried of course I have time to think but I just think is it doable
2 young kids
a dog
ahouse to keep up and run (my side of the chores anyway, DH has his)

It’s completely doable. That doesn’t mean you have to want to do it though. It’s harder, but then easier if they are siblings that play together, or harder if they are always at loggerheads.

Well I hope it's doable. We'll be doing the same and I work full time too. In all seriousness, millions of people do this - I'd stop overthinking it and just get on with it. Accept the first few years will probably be shit but it will get better.

You don’t mention work so presumably you don’t have to factor in prohibitive nursery costs. Totally doable. Lovely actually.

@Findyourneutralspace oh no sorry I do work full time. DS goes to nursery 4 days a week but by the time I’d have the baby and go back to work he’d be entitled to free hours 38 weeks of the year

so only 14 weeks where moneys quite tight

My work are really flexible and supportive of parents too so I’m not worried in that sense. I’m quite lucky there

I do think them being close is a good factor as we don’t have any babies in the family so he has child interaction at nursery and he LOVES it. He bounds in to see the other kids :)

so I know there’d be typical adjustment to sharing mummy a new sibling etc but I look and know he’d love it he’s really loving <3

I originally wanted a big age gap because the birth was so difficult but over time that changed and I read so many good stories about small age gaps. Like anything it has pros and cons.

My outlook now is that the earlier you have you children the longer you get to spend with them :)

I have a 14 month old and we are actively TTC for number 2 (still recovering from early miscarriage atm though)

Totally doable! I had 3 under 4 at one point (and no dog though, but other pets) and though it was fairly full on as dh had an on-call rota for nights of 1:3, it somehow worked and they're now 23, 21 and 19 and really close even though the oldest 2 have now left home.

I had three under 4, who are now 5, 3 and 2 and it was a bit crazy the first year but on mat leave you have time for it to be crazy and by the time I went back to work we'd settled into a routine. It's still crazy but now it's just life and I actually find it easier as they play together and entertain each other. Dh and I both work part time which has been a game changer for us - it means childcare and housework is really well balanced and we both have half a day a week to ourselves. Would recommend with multiple young kids if it's affordable.

100% doable.