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Ex paying less maintenance rant!

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dalmation4046 · 30/01/2023 18:21

Sorry, just need somewhere to rant! Split up with my children's dad 2.5 years ago, he's always paid maintenance through CMS..but has always had issues with trying to pay less by being on a higher band than he actually was (you pay less if you have them more often), arguing with cms about his earnings etc. Now I've just received a letter that he's added 1 other child onto his claim so it's reduced the amount he pays me by £60 per month. Texted him to ask what that's about as he has no other children...he's added his girlfriends 2 kids to the claim and they've made a mistake and only added 1...meaning when they rectify it, it will reduce for me even further.
Am I unreasonable for being annoyed?? I haven't said anything to him because I can't be bothered to argue if I'm honest but it just grinds my gears that he's paying less for his own biological children, because of his girlfriends kids that he CHOSE to move into his house. This is a man who has made me transfer him £8 for a hair cut that he decided our son needed. I don't ask for help with uniform etc..i bought both children £100 worth of clothes to keep at his house so we didn't need to pass a bag back and forth .I don't think he realizes that he has it quite easy and I don't ask for anything! I have a new partner, who pays maintenance for his daughter and he'd never dream of paying less because he chose to be with a woman with children!

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SeasonFinale · 30/01/2023 18:23

He is an arsehole but the system is set up so that your maintenance is reduced if he has dependent children in his household.

taxpayer1 · 30/01/2023 18:50

If he is living with her he will need to help with the costs of the children as your new partner is probably doing too. The amount it goes down is minimal so you must be receiving a very good maintenance amount.

SpinningFloppa · 30/01/2023 19:05

Yes that’s how it works I’m afraid, could be worse, I’ve never received a penny off my ex for our kids as he doesn’t work or claim benefits!

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MillicentTrilbyHiggins · 30/01/2023 19:24

It's a fucking joke. My ex phoned me up and laughed down the phone when he realised he could reduce his payments due to living with someone else's children.

HermioneWeasley · 30/01/2023 19:26

It’s a fucking disgrace but that’s how it works.

bloodyplanes · 31/01/2023 10:04

Yep my ex did this as well! The system is so wrong, why should his biological kids suffer just because he move's someone else's kids into his house?!!!!

dalmation4046 · 31/01/2023 11:34

taxpayer1 · 30/01/2023 18:50

If he is living with her he will need to help with the costs of the children as your new partner is probably doing too. The amount it goes down is minimal so you must be receiving a very good maintenance amount.

He has a very well paid job, we were together ten years and I completely gave up my career/life to move around with him and bring up our children (I did work part time)...signed off my rights to his pension when we divorced. I think the least I'm entitled to is a decent amount for his children - the £250 per month maintenance doesn't make a dent in providing for his children... especially when he earns what he does.

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taxpayer1 · 31/01/2023 12:43

250 pounds sounds like a good amount to me. It is to cover their expenses.

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